Do I tell my partner?!

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I was recently told that I had a singular wart on my penis caused by HPV. They are not 100% sure though. I currently also suffer from Fordyce spots so have some spots on me penis. 

I’ve started seeing a girl just before I found out. I have been seeing her for a few weeks and haven’t slept with her and she’s now getting suspicious. The doctor said I don’t have to tell her. But I’m not sure as to what to do. 

Has anyone been in this position before? Can any help? 

This is extremely stressful as I’ve been single for a very long time. 

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  • Posted

    Telling her would demystify your reluctance for her, but whether you tell her or not, isn't the solution to wear a condom, which is wise anyway with a new partner?

    • Posted

      Of course that’s wise, but it’s not 100% effective in this case. 
    • Posted

      The only thing 100% effective is abstinence. But that is unrealistic. A condom is a barrier, so the virus won't spread. But keep in mind, you'll want to use one any time she's touching your penis with any part of her, otherwise if you do have HPV, she'll get it too. But you'd have to explain to her at that point that you may have HPV and you are just protecting her. You telling her, and also explaining you've sought a doctor's opinion on it will definitely make her feel better.

  • Posted

    Sorry for this most stressful situation. Please tell your girl about it and let her make sure to take necessary precautions. If she decides to bale out of the relationship at least you won't spread a disease if it is one.

    Good luck, Ken

  • Posted

    I know this is 15 days old and Op may not even read this but you need to tell her, she has every right to know. what if it is warts and you pass it on to her. it effects her life too. what if she had herpes and didn't tell you? how would you feel after you found out after you got it from her? 

    this isn't just effecting you, it effects her. she needs to know and its only right to tell her. if you don't you are in the wrong and you are a horrible person and this is how people contract std's and sti's because people hide s**t and don't care about anyone but themselves.

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