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DO YOU FEEL LIKE PEOPLE THINK YOUR JUST LAZY

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MrsMerm
MrsMerm

sad

I am trying to hold down a job and it's a pretty difficult one at that but feel exhausted most of the time

I find it exasperating when I feel that people with no experience of things seem to suggest I'm a light weight

I just can't do what I did before plain and simple

I do wish this MENOPAUSE/PERIMENOPAUSE thing was taken seriously

                           Mrs M neutral

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  • terri16632
    terri16632 MrsMerm

    Posted

    Understood fully. Look into magnesium citrate.  Boosts energy almost immediately.
  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm

    Posted

    I'm already taking magnesium

    thanks Terri 

    I appreciate you getting back to me wink

  • terri16632
    terri16632 MrsMerm

    Posted

    Cool. Just make sure you are taking magnesium citrate. Magnesium oxide doesn't really help. 
  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm

    Posted

    thanks for the advice,

    I am going to see whats on the bottle now

     cheesygrin

  • Jay91157
    Jay91157 MrsMerm

    Posted

    I know where you are coming from. Berocca is good for energy boost. 
  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm

    Posted

    Will try, thanks

    most days it takes me ages to get going, stiffness and general exhaustion

    any kind of stress makes it much worse

  • to-ramona
    to-ramona MrsMerm

    Posted

    Hi, I just thought I'd drop you a quick line - I'm exactly the same at the minute; I am covered with various aches, pains and general stiffness and shattered most of the time. Today, I actually fell asleep several times - temporarily - at my desk! It's horrible, and it's causing me to really lose confidence in myself and my abilities. Nobody has said anything to me but I do get the strong impression that I'm the cause of some frustration at work ... I'm not sure what can be done, I just know I can't carry on like this. 

    I noticed that someone mentioned magnesium citrate - I'd not heard of this, but anything is worth a try! 

    I'm sorry I don't have any answers, but I thought you might want to know that you're not on your own eek. Let me know how you get on, 

    Anna x

  • MrsMerm
    MrsMerm

    Posted

    I'm so worn out Anna, sometimes food or drinks I like taste strange (the coffee I used to love is horrible)???

    I can't cope with stress well, altercations with people, on Friday last week I had a stinker with consultant (work) related and could not face anything over the weekend, the whole business exhausted me mentally (and physically) cry

    I am such a positive person but feel hopeless useless and helpless

    to think it's only just over a year ago that I hiked for 3 times a week, sometimes for 3 hours (hill walking) I feel that I will never be able to do that again, I find it difficult just earning enough to get by

    my body aches and my hands, shoulders, after my shifts I need time to recuperate

    conseqently I have become an unreliable middle aged worker frown

    But I'm ambitious and used to love life, really

    the whole business, menopause for me is an oxymoran and I'm the moran in it rolleyes

    sorry but feeling at wits end, going to bed now to sleep again, that's all I seem to do these days

                               Mrs M x  

    • to-ramona
      to-ramona MrsMerm

      Posted

      Hi,

      Sounds very familiar! I haven't had the taste thing, but the work stuff sounds extremely similar.

      I'm not a naturally positive person, and have struggled quite heavily with depression and anxiety in the past (to the point of being in hospital several times). HOWEVER, over the last 10-15 years - with the help of CBT - I have really turned this around and now I do consider myself to be a positive person (I sometimes have to work on it, but that's OK).

      This seems to now be in ruins, and I feel every bit as negative/anxious/depressed as I did. Actually, that's an exaggeration - it's nowhere near as bad, but it is certainly pretty horrible. I haven't had any confrontations but my head is everywhere and I can tell it's been noticed. My reaction is almost always tears - not in front of anyone, I take myself off to the toilets. It all sounds a bit tragic, doesn't it?!

      My energy has reduced massively, and my evenings and weekends are basically just catching up on sleep and rest. The aches and pains are fairly new, and a little bit baffling. For example, the soles of my feet hurt if I haven't walked on them for a while, my back hurts quite a lot, and I get sort of random pains in various places. It's awful!

      Are you thinking of HRT? It's certainly my next step ... I've had a hell of a job trying to get onto it (hormone tests etc.), but I'm going to insist. If it's not for me then I'll have to think again, but enough is enough!

      I have, in the interim, ordered some magnesium citrate - just on the off-chance that it will lift me a little bit ... I'll have to let you know!

      Anna x

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