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I've been dealing with perimenopause for five years now, and I feel like I've had every physical and mental symptom possible! Just when I think that it's getting better, and I get my hopes up, I plunge into the darkest place imaginable all over again. It's so incredibly disheartening. When will all of this end?! Can anyone else relate?
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Finkyb bev27429
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Hi bev,
Sorry to hear you aren't doing so well at the moment. After a good spell it certainly is disheartening to have some things return and this in itself is enough to bring more anxiety and low mood. What symptoms are bothering you the most? What things over the past 5 years have you tried? It seems unbeatable at times but be kind to yourself, you've come this far and have got through each day, better days will come again,
Finkyb
bev27429 Finkyb
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Thanks for your response:) I think that the hardest symptoms that I'm dealing with right now are the irritation, anger, and frustration. I was almost 90% good last month, and I felt like all of this was finally behind me. Then I got a super heavy period, and now I'm in survival mode again with my mental health. I just keep telling myself that this is the end, and I focus on just getting through the present moment. I also try to stay productive to distract myself from my feelings. My periods are spacing out now: I've gone as long as 110 days without one, so I'm getting there.
Finkyb bev27429
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Bless you, it's not nice at all. Hopefully in the next few weeks things will settle down again. I completely understand these feelings. I think the hardest part is not having any control over the feelings what so ever. I get irritated by the simplest of things sometimes and have no idea why. Its like someone else takes over your mind isn't it. I've suffered with premenstrual syndrome for many years and could spot a pattern but now it's all over the place and add in crying spells I can be bit of a mess sometimes. Distraction is good, anything that calms the mind. I'm thinking of taking some vitamins, I've read that B6 can be good but haven't tried it yet. Hold on to that 90%, it will return, sounds like you are getting there,
All the best,
Finkyb
bev27429 Finkyb
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Thanks, Finkyb. I appreciate your kind words. I do feel like my mind has been hijacked. When I am screaming and crying, I know that there is nothing wrong with my life, but still the feelings come flooding through. It's so hard not to have control over your own emotions. I'm a fighter, though, so I'll never give up!
sara97862 bev27429
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Oh Bev, we are in the same place right now. I don't feel comfortable in my own skin anymore, and I can't seem to find time to myself to figure out what to try to tackle first.
Work, family duties, and this hell... it's all too much.
Sending love,
Sara
bev27429 sara97862
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Thanks, Sara. It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one struggling.
Hugs to you xo
beth13506 bev27429
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Hi Bev ,
I relate to you , some days i lost hope thinking im not gone make the day especially i hate the sleepless night many stressful thoughts come to my mind . I havent enjoyed the past 4-5 years im 46 . Rapid heart beat and gastrointestinal problem is the most complaint i have but the list goes on , prayer is my biggest weapon . Hang in there .
Beth
nina27975 beth13506
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thank you for sharing beth because i have been feeling like my prayers might not be able to get me through this and i know its ridiculous to think like that when its gotten me through so many tough times already. with little to no sleep though your mind isnt very reliable. feeling very panicky and discouraged but feel some comfort finding this online forum where many women are sharing.
nina27975 bev27429
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i found this menopause forum and it has been a god send. yes i relate! i have also been going through all of this for five years and its terrible. i am on day 3 of no sleep and dont know how much more of this i can take. my periods are still coming and im only 44 so if i have five more years of this just shoot me now!
bev27429 nina27975
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Hi Nina,
I'm not sure if you've tried anything for your sleep. I'm taking Seroquel (50mg), immediate release, at night, and it's been brilliant for my sleep! It's an atypical antipsychotic (don't let that scare you), but at lower doses: 12.5 to 100mg it is prescribed, off label, for sleep. I've had no side effects, and the psychiatrist I saw said that I could take it forever, at that dose, and I'd been fine. It might be something to look into.
Hugs xo
pilar30447 bev27429
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(crying again today)
"it's so incredibly disheartening"
may i repeat it over again??
HIDEOUS HIDEOUS MENOPAUSE.
The DISHEARTENING AND DISAPOINTMENT of the spiral down into the WRETCHEDNESS over and over ovwr over and over!!!!??????????? and for what???? We work THAT HARD in life to arrive to.......THIS?
for the women who "breeze" thru they havnt a clue the abject suffering we bear, ZERO clue that they got LUCKY. i mean.....for YEARS. 6.5 years of HELL. DEATHLY. i am a 53 year old, look 63. i am kind of emaciated, skin hangs, HRT BARELY HELPS
And my sleep is average 2 hours (in 4 pieces) a night for.........6.5 years. 52 symptoms. for why exactly? what does meno actually do. What, a fab torture idea? I HATE NATURE FOR THIS. i am SO SORRY YOU LADIES ARE IN IT. did i mention its HIDEOUS yet..... despicable depression and bladder and freezing chill blistering hot flashes are a nice bonus too.
sara97862 pilar30447
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Oh Pilar, hugs to you~~ Here with you.
Sara
bev27429 pilar30447
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You have captured it perfectly. The suffering defies all logic and is virtually impossible to cope with. It's an absolute crime. You have my deepest of sympathy and understanding. One day, it will all be behind you and me; in the meantime, it's about surviving - that's what I've been doing for the past five years.
Big hugs to you,
B xo
renee61138 bev27429
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I have been dealing with this since i was 39 Im 44 now. I was doing so well now my health anxiety is back like a raving b***h! I went on a trip that i loved to come home with off balance feeling thats lasted a month now have to get a balance test. I barely want to go out I am always anxious my gastro issues are horrible and I just want to feel normal again! My husband is over my ocd Im sure he is very patient but Im always complaining. This truly is horrible. At least we have each other ladies.
corinne62311 pilar30447
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i visit this site maybe twice a month now instead if everyday , so i guess u could say that i have improved. i thought that once i started feeling better it would all go away . sadly no and my hopes are dashed away like many on this thread. im sorry but i dont want to live "feeling ok, or with only symptoms every second day" i want my life back. i have been on HRT for 18 months and i am better than i was, but im certainly not good. yes Pilar i say the same as you WHY WHY WHY? only the people on this site understand . its hard to explain to counsellors or best friends or husbands. they just don't get it. we have each other thankfully. stay strong
corinne
vivian72668 pilar30447
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Hey Pilar...
Your symptoms are HIDEOUS, and I, too, have had some of those SAME symptoms! I absolutely LOVE your post! Rant on my sistah, get it out of your system, this is the safe space to do so!! That said, I am adamant when I say menopause is a friggin TSUNAMI! I am sooo... happy, you are NOT ashamed of what you are going through, and that you my friend, are willing to be soooo... open and honest about this sugar, honey, ice tea! COUNTLESS women suffer in silence, and wear masks to PRETEND they are well! That has always bothered me!! This is a natural stage of our lives, and I don't believe concealing it makes it any better, as a matter of fact, it probably makes it WORSE! My advice to you is this, my dear: Find out what makes you feel better, and provides some sense of sanity and normalcy! I have always taken the ALL-Naturel route to combat the symptoms, and many days, I want to call the asylum, and tell the operator to send the men in white, and bring plenty of bandages to wrap me up, and haul me away, til this shiggedy ends! Anyhoo, be well, my menopausal sistah!
beth13506 renee61138
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i relate to you and many others on this forum . you are lucky to have supportive husband i only have almighty God , I dont share my aches and pains to my family much as we have stressful life , i do have balance problem and also Gerd +SIBO , palpitation and the list goes on only God knows when and how will it stop . lets hope best day is ahead of us .