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Does Anyone Just Prefer to Be on Their Own?

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bev27429
bev27429

Things are getting super intense for me, physically and psychologically, and I find that the only semi-peace that I get is coming home to my cottage at the end of the day and being all by myself, where I don't have to fake things, or interact with others, or feel any kind of pressure to be a certain way. Even when I feel terrible, which is most of the time right now, I find some modicum of peace by being in solitude making a meal, reading, watching a film and so on.

Any thoughts on this?

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  • shelley49873
    shelley49873 bev27429

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    This is me all over. I divorced my hub over 4 and a half years ago my kids are adults and my days are on my own and I wouldnt have it any other way.... I love being on my own.. I really despise being with people. Menopause had changed me.. I cant imagine feeling physically and mentally the way I do, and to deal with people

  • cat38281
    cat38281 bev27429

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    I understand what you mean. And I've always been a very introverted person to begin with. Yet now I'm finding that it does help me to have social interaction, particularly with those who understand and care about me and are supportive, who I can trust and freely vent to when I need. I hardly ever go out, yet I'm conscious that being closed up in my rooms, with my feelings -- both emotional AND physical -- and my thoughts, is just not healthy. For me it seems to amplify EVERYTHING and makes it all seem at least fifty times worse. At the same time, when I do manage to drag myself out, I find myself distracted by my thoughts and discomforts, and wishing I could just hurry home and hide. And then I get frustrated with myself for being that way. I can't tell what's the best thing to do, but one thing I think I've become clearer on, is not to be alone too much. This phase is isolating enough as it is.

  • brandy19060
    brandy19060 bev27429

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    Yes!!!! This is me exactly. I love my family and bf but your right the faking like you feel fine and everything is great is so exhausting in itself! I find myself feeling irritated as well watching other people live their lives free of any horrible hell. This is awful feeling nauseous 24/7 or if you can eat having horrible gerd/acid reflux afterward for hours. And then the other physical and mental symptoms just keep piling on while i look at these happy people envious, knowing my smile is fake and forced so i dont ruin everyones good time, so yes i would rather be alone as well

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