Does depression can make you think you don't love someone?

Hi . For the last few days I wanted to ask something like that in here . I m in a similar situation, it s just that me I m the one with anxiety and dont know what I want anymore and what I feel . I m in a long relationship , and most of the days I m wondering if I still have feelings or if I still want to be with him .So to answer your question , yes , I think it s possible when you have anxiety/ depression not to know anymore what you want . some days I feel like I want to break up and then I feel like I cannot live without him ..and you feel stuck . I dont know what advice to give you , its hard for us as well cause we are confused . some days I feel guilty that I cannot let him be happy and has to leave with a person who's constantly worried and negative about everything . maybe it's the same with your partner

depression does that to a person

Continue to remind him how much you love him and that no matter what he thinks you'll always be there for him. Continue to encourage him to see a specialist.

I think it's time for you to take care of yourself properly. And in your case that means realizing what a huge toll this relationship is taking on your happiness and well being and then making a tough decision - the decision to vacate a situation that started out wonderfully and then slowly deteriorated.

During the bloom of the first days of a love affair even a depressed and probably bipolar person like your boyfriend can ride the high of it all and appear to be the perfect man.

But as time passes and the glow wears off your boyfriend's chronic depression comes to the surface and you begin to see what a roller coaster ride you're in for with him.

Your boyfriend unfortunately is only capable of sustaining the early first phase of meeting someone new and the excitement that brings with it. When it's time for the relationship to begin maturing his depression prevents him from holding up his end.

I hope you can realize how unhealthy this situation is for you and make the right decision to cut it off.

You deserve the love of an emotionally stable partner.

Very best of luck to you as you navigate your way through this phase of your life.

Yes I agree that it's time to look after yourself and what YOU want. It's too easy to get bogged down in his needs and wants and leave yours by the road side.

My other thought is if his depression is affecting his relationship with you then if he is that invested in you why isn't he willing to seek professional help? If he refuses that then I would just stay friends and look for someone who able to give you the relationship you need and deserve.

Hi Edith, He needs to see a DR as this is at the very least depression, if its early on, the better...if he has a history of this, your relationship decisions may be different, if its a pattern, etc.. you need to decide if it is something you can continue to deal with vs. if THIS is NEW for him...I have a little different take on things, if you're talking about a relationship you want to be permanent, we don't give up when the going gets tough and our partner is suffering, wouldn't you hope, if YOU were having depression, anxiety and etc..that your partner would try to help you & not give up on you & the relationship...just because one of you needs help at the moment, is confused, feeling terrible...doesn't mean your relationship is doomed & you cant go on to have a great relationship, couples need to TALK more than anything, and preferably w/ a professional...you can still take care of your needs and support your partner...if someone is in deep depression they can lose their connection to people, things, even their emotions(they can describe feeling nothing, numb, strange, very little love, joy or even dead inside), have hard time concentrating, making decisions is very difficult, as you don't know if the depression is making you feel that way, or if you REALLY do feel a certain way, (all caused by imbalances of certain brain chemicals, stressors, which there are a lot of right now)some push people away or even withdraw, which makes depression worse...he may have bi-polar or is conflicted at the moment, he may feel like you deserve better than him & his issues, he may REALLY want you to stay & to stay with you but, pushes you away as he feels like he doesn't deserve you....YOU have the ability to call it off at ANY TIME but, you also have the option of trying to help him, by talking your truths to each other, going to a counsellor together, helping him through treatment...if it all gets to be too much, its YOUR decision...figure out how you REALLY feel, WHAT you're willing to do & set-up some boundaries/red lines for your relationship...e.g. if he refuses treatment, to help himself, shuts you out...tell him you love/care for him & would help him in any way but, you cant make him get better ALONE & when he is ready you are there for him, if he doesn't come around, in a timely manner, you will need to decide if its over then...most people will experience depression at some point in their lives, it would be sad, if he could be helped with CBT, counselling, meds & etc...& get better, esp. if its early on in his depression and this would make your relationship stronger...AND if you already have had too much, I think your instincts are telling you, or leaning one way or the other...sometimes we need to listen but, you can get help for yourself on how to deal with a depressed partner, ways to help, or ways to leave the relationship as friends, or cut ties completely..you have options, its YOUR life...you set the timing & rules..Good Luck & BEST WISHES💒🌈♾🐾🎶☮

The short answer is yes, it can. Depressed people have loved ones around them, but because of certain things they think they are not lovable. This is not true, everyone will be loved by somebody, even Hitler was loved by many and look at the problems he caused for millions of people.