Does my boyfriend have bipolar?

I know this forum is for people with bipolar but i'm so confused that I hope no one minds me asking for advice from people who really know about this illness.?I'll try to be brief. Met my b/f at college , first real love , been together on and off for just under a year. He told all of us at the beginning that he had bipolar as from experience it was easier to do so. He also said his dad had bipolar with complications but didn't mention what they were and none of us felt we could ask at that point [still haven't don't feel its my business].Didnt know anything about the illness but started reading up  when he asked me out . Everything was fine at first but then out of the blue he finished with me,no explanation.But the next morning he texted me and continued to do so all weekend until back at college he asked me out again.This happened a further four times but each time I went back he became progressively more hurtful in what he said to me, accusing me of things he was actually guilty of himself. He ended things again as they didn't feel right he said.He went out with another girl which lasted a week before she finished things as ,in his words he had a major episode and took it out on her. That's the confusing thing; he only ever is episodal with me /girlfriends. He's always fine with everyone else. When I asked him about this he said he didn't know. I thought episodes affected everybody not just select people, have I got it wrong? There was a break and then he got in touch saying he loved me , was trying to sort himself out so we started going out again. But then I started to notice other things; at times his behaviour is childish, for one example ,he sat on a chair thumping the wall and when asked what he was doing he replied, "sulking".He also has to be the centre of attention all the time to the point where if anyone has anything to say he always has done something much wilder and more exciting.He did even say once ,"It was amazing to be the centre of attention, everyone listening to me . It was just brilliant."He also tells [I hesitate to say lies because he clearly believes them] stories; He's been mugged ,stabbed twice, knocked off his bike, attacked by a drunk, knocked unconscious and spent days in hospital,has allergies that leave him unconscious for two days that he forgets about til someone mentions it, has job offers abroad , has injuries that should require surgery but he never needs it and the latest one is a friend's body was found somewhere out in the wilds[ there have been no newspaper reports on this -i feel terrible for even checking up on him but i'll be honest, this one freaked me out a bit].When he talks about things he often repeats what has just been said to him and even says lines out of films and songs as though it were his own  conversation.Just recently he admitted he's never been officially diagnosed as bipolar and as far as i'm aware he's not on any medication [although he did say he stopped taking anti depressants as they didn't help]. So , my question is , is all this consistent with bipolar because I just don't know how to cope with this behaviour anymore. Bipolar is not a problem to me . I accept it as part of who he is and was prepared to stand by and support him but some of this stuff doesn't seem to match  all the info I've read and i'm now seriously confused and feeling very low myself. Can someone please help me understand better?

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