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partner just started 50mg of sertraline a few days ago. I know it take weeks before someone feels the benefits. he has been emotionally numb and shutdown. does not feel love etc. only emotions seems to be anger. will these ad help return normal feelings or numb them more
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lorna811 karen68963
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Hi. I was on 100mg for 2 years. when you first start Sertraline it takes up to 8 weeks to become acclimatised to it. i had feelings of dislocation (feeling unemotional with others), being wooly headed, waking up in the night and i was remarkably clumsy! All of these symptoms gradually disappeared except the waking in the night one. the pills seem to react differently so my sympto
ms might be very different to your partners, but everyone on here has improvement over those first few weeks. Your partner is lucky that you care so much. good luck.
Potatoghost karen68963
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I'm not sure about sertraline but I was the same as your husband before I started citalopram. once I found the right dose it all came back so dont worry. and I'm pretty sure when he finds the right dose and starts to feel better with sertraline it will all come back.
it's normal when suffering from anxiety/depression to feel like he is. try not to worry x easier said than done.
karen68963 Potatoghost
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thank you for taking the time to reply to me . I am constantly trying to find some hope in a horrible situation. I am not sure how much longer I can wait or cope for that matter. he left our family home in Jan but has tried to stay connected to me and the kids but unfortunately only in a physical sense he has been very disconnected emotionally. he has been in denial started ad in March for a few wks stopped taking them but has been going to cbt. he started ad again 5 days ago saying he realises now that he has to get well for himself. I am at the stage of needing to make a decision to move on and let go or try stick it out longer and see where it leads us to. it's not an easy decision to make after spending over 20 yrs together. it has been the hardest few months of my life for me and our children. he seems to have coped well in that he doesnt have feelings towards me and I dont think towards the kids either so he has not had the devastation of missing his family. I know he has been battling his own demons in this time it's just he chose to do it alone.
Potatoghost karen68963
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everything he is choosing to do will be anxiety/depression. it will be that making the choices and in a sense controlling how he acts. he wont even know it but he isn't himself obviously.
and I'm sure that's not the person you knew 20 years ago. it really is a horrible illness! I completely understand that it most be so difficult for you and your children and it must be weighing you down too.
my advise would be to stick with it and wait for him. if you choose to move on now and he gets better you might regret making that decision down the line.
whereas if you do try to stick it out and it doesnt work atleast you know you tried and will still be able to move on.
the live for you and your children is still their but its masked by something stronger right now and when the dark cloud lifts you will see that he was always their but in a bad place.
he needs to take his tablets properly and not stop them. it's important that he sticks to it and when he starts getting better you will be glad you tried x
I'm sorry you are going through what you are right now. just remember he may not seem like it but hes in a very dark place, worse than what people may think, he needs help and support as long as it's around x
Potatoghost
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he chose to do it alone because hes scared and hes not his usual self by the sound of it. it's scary but he will have to want to get better too x he will go back to his normal self x it just takes time x
kerry56645 karen68963
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Hi Karen, i hope your ok it sounds like thats an awful thing to have to have to deal with for you as well as your partner. 50mg is a low dose so if he doesnt feel a little better after 4 weeks then i would go back to the doctors. you are likely to notice th change before he does. Its all well and good supporting partners and husbands but remember to take some tine for yourself and keep your self well cx
kerry56645 karen68963
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sorry i didnt read your whole story. im sorry you deserve more than this. By all means support him he is the father of your children but dont enable him.
We all have basic needs and feeling loved and cared for is one of them. Maybe he needs to consider you and your children more, that should be the driving force for him wanting to take his medication. Maybe relate councelling may help you understand each other more, its not all about him and his needs regardless if he is depressed and anxious. Sorry i really dont want to upset you xxx
karen68963 kerry56645
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thanks Kerry I appreciate the advice and I totally agree with you hence my constant battle with heart and head. he has been in denial and has only started to take ad 5 days ago. took them in March and felt somewhat better after 5 wks so stopped taking them. he is so consumed in himself that me and the kids feelings dont come into the equation. I have suggested counselling and he said that he needs to focus on getting himself to feel better first which I agree with but him being reluctant to take ads for so long has prolonged the whole thing and has done so much damage to our family that sometimes I wonder can it be repaired if he does get well. making the decision to move forward without him is very difficult but I am determined if he stops meds this time I am done. I am expecting the worst and hoping for the best
kerry56645 karen68963
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good luck Karen how utterly heart breaking, you'll know what to do when the time us right for you. I went through a really rough patch recently and my mum told me when your ready to make a big decision like that it will cone to a point when you have total clarity on which way you go, marriage and relationships are tough, Keep strong for you and your girls and i hope things work out for you. Try and take some tine for yourself and surround yours self with good friends xxx