Don't believe everything you read on here

Hi Theresa

I love the way you are talking. Like you are normal. When you are with men, do you use protection with them? Do you have oral sex with them?

Do you eat certain foods to help keep the big H away?

I've had it for 4 years now but still paranoid on how contagious it is! I Feel likeI can pass it on at anytime, even with protection. Not because I have symptoms, just because I have it in me!

Some people have been to medical school and/or doctors and being newly infected or not, still will know more than someone infected their entire life. If someone provides science and not just experience, you might wanna use the science for further education on your own to validate it. You can't really validate someones opinions or what they deem realistic.

Also, be careful who you take advice from. These people arw part of the problem w spreading the disease around. You arw infected w this disease because of some selfish individuals here, care more about getting sex, than giving their partner the option to not be infected.

As you may notice, this is someone who has had it for 14yrs, but she feels confident in saying she's never infected people she just has a one night stand w or a couple love affairs w. Mind you, most of you all lnow by now that over 80% of people who do get infected never know.. So now these people were u knowingly infected, by a selfish infected person and then they sleep w uninfected people such as myself and the rest of you who are newly infected, our lives effected terribly and in lots of emotional and physical pain, all because people like Theresa are so selfish and getting their rocks off is more important than just keeping your pants on and/or informing your partner. Bravo...

Sorry.. Nobody needs to take advice from someone w the moral compass and mentality to sleep around w people and not tell them. You cannot be 100% positive you never infected your casual flings and if you knew anything about tjoa disease, you'd not spread such false confidence around as you just did keep your selfish and devious advice to your self please, as it is people like YOU that have negatively ruined our lives. It is sick that you even come on here and give advice yo innocent people who has no choice or say and were lied to, who were given the option, because they ARE people like YOU, who cares more about getting their rocks off, than how you'll run for some their lives. Please lady.. Get off your sick high horse. You should be ashamed w yourself!!

But you still need to be safe and tell the guys u sleep with you have this.

I do agree though is you do need each person is different with herpes. I came here worried and got good advice but once I went back to the clinic felt I was worrying too much over this and it's not really a big deal. Apart from telling the guys you sleep with there no reason to tell anyone.

I told a couple female friends and their reaction was so much different to the male friends I have. While some people have bad outbreaks or bad experiences not everyone is the same this what does need to be pointed out here. So far I been lucky infact had a few interesting conversations with guys and they don't seem to be bothered although yes you got to be careful. This really important is being safe and this was a wake up call for myself as I was not always. If you sleep about with no protection then you looking to get more than just herpes.

Herpes is not great but also not a death sentence. But we need to remember each person deals with it differently too. Some are stronger than others and some still dealing with it too. I feel much better about herpes and was more upset about breaking up with my ex which was not just about herpes why we split. We can still live normally and no need to go round telling family/ friends really. I asked do u need to tell your doctor was told no. I feel no need to feel disgusted with yourself and it's not anyone fault we have this.

I think it's best we try be positive rather than negative because only makes a person on here first posting who just diagnoised worse. This sites make u worse but some sites uplifting as people do get on have husband/family.

The only worry I have is that would like a baby how would that happen if you meant to be safe with your partner who don't have it? I forgot how that works.

I'm not sure why she is being attacked for saying none of her partners have been infected? If you take some time to carefully reread the post you'll understand what she is trying to say. She never wrote that she intentionally withheld her condition from her partners. This is a rough condition to have so instead of sending discouraging and presumptive responses, remember we're experiencing the same condition so respect is important first and foremost.

So, I live in a small village. If i told everyone that I wanted to sleep with that I have herpes I would be the talk of the village!

i just wanted to add some perspective.i have had herpes simplex 1 for the last 46 years. We are all exposed to the virus and some have antibodies against it. For example. My first out break was when I was 13, simplex one is oral herpes but the same thing in essence .......The first two years were very rough. After the initial outbreaks, I would only have outbreaks about three times a year, usually while under stress. I was still having out breaks when I had children. Of course I was careful when I felt one coming  on but neither ever got herpes. Also while I was growing up with five siblings, none of them caught it. But yes they are contagious. We know that some people will never get them, they have immunity. But not a reason not to be careful. Because who knows who has immunity...any how by the time I was thirty I had one herpie outbreak in that decade. Just one! Since then I have had none....zero....nothing so it really isn't for life, yes it's still in the body but the body knows how to deal with it. I think maybe five years tops, it was hard. Because mine were oral they were obvious, and hurt as well. People who have simplex one can not get genital herpes. One good thing. I think people take it hard because it's in the genital area and feel a stigma. It's not a big deal your outbreaks will go away. It's not a life sentence. Relax and be glad it's not something worse.