Don't believe everything you read on here
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Since I've been on this forum and reading everyone's post's and replies, i feel it's important to inform you that herpes affects everyone differently. I have been infected for 14 years and no its was not the end of my world. Was i freaked out and uneducated? Of course. But i knew I would have this virus for the rest of my life so i was going to learn to deal with it.
My first ob was awful. I had the "kissing cousins" which were single blisters on each side of my labia. I remember living in the bathtub for two days to ease the pain. I've never had a ob as bad since. I'm even lucky enough to go months and even up to 2 years without a single ob. Now when I do get one i notice the signs of itching and tingling the day before and start my meds. I take double dose the 1st day. The ob usually only last 3 days.
Furthermore, i have had multiple partners in the last 14 years all of whom which NEVER CAUGHT THE VIRUS. So many believe that you are contagious 24/7. I do not believe this to be true. I regain from sex soon as I notice symptoms and for 2-3 days after blisters heals.
there are other areas i may be off assistance so ask me if you want. But please don't believe all you read from other infected newbies. Good luck and know 75% of the sexually active individuals will eventually have some form of herpesvirus and/or HPV. You are not alone and life does go on
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paul92131 theresa48911
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I love the way you are talking. Like you are normal. When you are with men, do you use protection with them? Do you have oral sex with them?
Do you eat certain foods to help keep the big H away?
I've had it for 4 years now but still paranoid on how contagious it is! I Feel likeI can pass it on at anytime, even with protection. Not because I have symptoms, just because I have it in me!
feelbroken theresa48911
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Also, be careful who you take advice from. These people arw part of the problem w spreading the disease around. You arw infected w this disease because of some selfish individuals here, care more about getting sex, than giving their partner the option to not be infected.
As you may notice, this is someone who has had it for 14yrs, but she feels confident in saying she's never infected people she just has a one night stand w or a couple love affairs w. Mind you, most of you all lnow by now that over 80% of people who do get infected never know.. So now these people were u knowingly infected, by a selfish infected person and then they sleep w uninfected people such as myself and the rest of you who are newly infected, our lives effected terribly and in lots of emotional and physical pain, all because people like Theresa are so selfish and getting their rocks off is more important than just keeping your pants on and/or informing your partner. Bravo...
Sorry.. Nobody needs to take advice from someone w the moral compass and mentality to sleep around w people and not tell them. You cannot be 100% positive you never infected your casual flings and if you knew anything about tjoa disease, you'd not spread such false confidence around as you just did keep your selfish and devious advice to your self please, as it is people like YOU that have negatively ruined our lives. It is sick that you even come on here and give advice yo innocent people who has no choice or say and were lied to, who were given the option, because they ARE people like YOU, who cares more about getting their rocks off, than how you'll run for some their lives. Please lady.. Get off your sick high horse. You should be ashamed w yourself!!
scorpio32 theresa48911
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I do agree though is you do need each person is different with herpes. I came here worried and got good advice but once I went back to the clinic felt I was worrying too much over this and it's not really a big deal. Apart from telling the guys you sleep with there no reason to tell anyone.
I told a couple female friends and their reaction was so much different to the male friends I have. While some people have bad outbreaks or bad experiences not everyone is the same this what does need to be pointed out here. So far I been lucky infact had a few interesting conversations with guys and they don't seem to be bothered although yes you got to be careful. This really important is being safe and this was a wake up call for myself as I was not always. If you sleep about with no protection then you looking to get more than just herpes.
Herpes is not great but also not a death sentence. But we need to remember each person deals with it differently too. Some are stronger than others and some still dealing with it too. I feel much better about herpes and was more upset about breaking up with my ex which was not just about herpes why we split. We can still live normally and no need to go round telling family/ friends really. I asked do u need to tell your doctor was told no. I feel no need to feel disgusted with yourself and it's not anyone fault we have this.
I think it's best we try be positive rather than negative because only makes a person on here first posting who just diagnoised worse. This sites make u worse but some sites uplifting as people do get on have husband/family.
The only worry I have is that would like a baby how would that happen if you meant to be safe with your partner who don't have it? I forgot how that works.
brittany83063 theresa48911
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scorpio32 brittany83063
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theresa48911 brittany83063
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I am a very attractive, mature, and responsible woman. I have never felt or been treated as if having herpes as death to my love life. Men are simple creatures; love them, respect them, and give them sex. Men who receive this don't let the fact that the woman who is providing all of his needs but has hsv come in the way. Education and safety are key. As long as you educate them about the virus and do your best to protect them men aren't going to go running to the hills.
I DO NOT TELL EVERYONE, in fact i haven't told hardly anyone about having hsv. Except my lovers of course. But even then i don't tell them right away until I know they aren't a douche and gonna treat me like a disease. Do i sleep around like one of you commented? If course not. That's how I got this damn virus in the first place. My mom is one of the only Ppl that know and even she said to keep it confidential. Family and friends that don't have the virus don't understand the virus and label us in horrible ways. I did confess to my teenage son who is close to losing his virginity, only so he realizes std's are real and easily contracted.
Getting pregnant and having a baby with hsv is very safe these days. You can opt to have a cesarean birth if your ob are frequent and bad, but the doc will assure you all will be okay.
Feelbroken, you are still obviously dealing with all the high emotions of becoming newly infected. A few years from now you'll realize life still goes on. Someone will love you regardless of your hsv. Trying to interpret what I'm writing in your own words isn't upsetting anyone but yourself. Good luck and stay strong. It's not the end of the world I promise
paul92131 theresa48911
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Any tips?
feelbroken brittany83063
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So we all know that casual flings, you're not keeping in contact w them like that to be so sure that she didn't pass. That is my reason for what you call attacking her. I resent people w her mentality, because people like her are why I have it.
feelbroken theresa48911
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So don't try to gas light me lady, you are morally corrupt.
paul92131 theresa48911
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feelbroken paul92131
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paul92131 feelbroken
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i don't know what is right and wrong. There is a million people saying different things on how infectious this is. I'm trying to deal with it like everyone else. What I'm not doing is blaming everyone else for me catching it. It was my own faukt for not being carful to start with. Not somebody else's for not telling me.
feelbroken paul92131
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London_ridge theresa48911
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feelbroken London_ridge
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I would like to point out that your information is incorrect on having oral herpes prevents you immunity from genital herpes. This is not true. You at best may have some antibodies to assist in prevention, but they said it is not a high probability. I have hsv 1 orally and I still caught hsv 2 on my gentitals. We are not talking about the same things here and please be careful spreading that information around. I respect and appreciate you mean well, but it is not true.
London_ridge
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Habe respect for your body and your self esteem, don't have casual sex just because you feel like it. It won't make you a better person. Be disaplined as much as possible. Don't disrespect your self or others that's the whole lesson here. I'm not a prude, but some people make a,career out of having sex with everyone and anyone. The problem with that is it will come back to bite your bum later in life.
feelbroken London_ridge
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