Don't know what is normal and what is not anymore

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I had my sub-total hysterectomy on the 28th March and since then I feel like out of this world, knackered, emotional, on the hedge all the time... the operation went well, pain wise is doable, however, my sleeping patterns are over the roof, hot flushes are really hot and I already had to take antibiotics for a bladder infection!! Now my main concern is that since the surgery I've been having like a mild incontinence... I don't even feel it coming out... was so bad that I had to buy those tena ladies pants to cope with it! I'm 37 years old and this is a big struggle to cope with it at the moment... is this normal? Will this go away? My follow up app is only on the 18th April but I'm panicking so much about this....

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    Personally I haven’t experienced any of that, I’m sure other will give you better feedback. Stay strong 
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    Hi Izzygg.  You probably had a bladder infection because during surgery, a catheter was placed in your bladder.  I suggest that you start taking a women's probiotic that has cultures in it for your digestive system, urinary tract and reproductive system. Get one that will survive the acid in your stomach.

    You need a good balance of good and bad bacteria in all these systems.  Most widely advertised probiotics only have one or two cultures, max. The presence of the bacteria you need should stave off future uti's.  

    Remember that your "lady parts" could have been subject to some abuse during  the surgery.  Don't take baths which will only encourage future infections.  Hopefully, as your body recovers, the leakage will go away. Best of luck xx.    

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      Hi lynda20916, thank you for your message and I'm sorry for late reply.

      I'm now free of incontence but battling a second infection... I feel worse than I felt on my first week after the op! Fair enough I was told off for keep moving around and not resting properly but I'm so frustrated. I know I'm only on my second week post-op but seriously I fee so rough!! (Rant over)

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    Hi hun

    I had my tvh and anterior repair ja n 22nd 2018., I didn't have any leakage but you are so early on in your recovery and need to rest and allow yourbody to heal . Our parts go through so much pushing,pulling and cutting that our bladder gets bruised by handling by your consultant during the op.

    I worry after my ok and my first anterior failed so I'm so so cautious just like I was in the first but I think it was the consultant that didn't do it right.. My new one has given me a tighter one hopefully lol. All was well at 6 wks but want to see him at 12 wks just to be sure. No point in worrying please contact your surgeon,that's what he is there for hun. We expect too much from our bodies,relax you are a brave lady😘

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    Hi Izzygg,

    Thank you for sharing. Did you contact your physician about the incontinence?

    I’ve been experiencing a similar thing. I have an appointment Tuesday. I’ll keep you and the group posted. Hang in there!!! 

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      Hi hottempered10, thank you for your message and I'm sorry for late reply.

      I'm now free of incontence but battling a second infection... I feel worse than I felt on my first week after the op! Fair enough I was told off for keep moving around and not resting properly but I'm so frustrated. I know I'm only on my second week post-op but seriously I fee so rough!! (Rant over)

      Did you go to your physician on Tuesday? What did he say? I only saw my gp yesterday and my appt with the consultant is only on the 18th April..

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      Hi Izzygg.

      ,,, hanging in there?

      My emergency visit on Tuesday is pretty much what I expected.

      I received a tongue lashing from my doctor as well as the nurses on staff in office.

      They informed me that an additional 2 weeks will more than likely added onto my recovery process. As I mentioned during the previous discussion that I was experiencing sharp intermittent pains, discharge, painful bowel movements and urine incontinence and difficulties in sleeping.

      My doctor was so disappointed in how I had been using the stairs numerous times a day, pushing and pulling items, dealing with family dog, and walking too much during the day. All of the things that I thought I was capable of doing after 2nd. week of my post op. I violated doctors instructions due to my guilt as caretaker for my family. Everyone thought that I was laying around too long! Now, it’s time for me to put my foot down and take care of myself!

      This is truly major surgery and must be treated as such. Izzygg, I’m still learning how to navigate this site. As many ladies that we can share our news with will hopefully disuade women to pamper themselves and not allow guilt to rush the recovery process. We are prime examples of how we misjudged our bodies. Please keep me in the loop about you’re doing. I’m truly interested in all of us taking good care! 

      I’m here for you. 🤗💕🤗

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      Omg... reading your post actually made me cry!! Your described exactly everything that I'm going through at the moment... but how do you do it? I do you cope without worrying about taking care of the family? Because for me that is my mine struggle... and also, I'm doing a degree and I'm falling behind with revision for exams... what makes me feel even more frustrated. I'm so emotional right now that I don't know what else to do or to say... however, reading yours and other ladies posts makes me feel that I'm not on my own, you all understand me. I will keep you updated but please you also keeps us in touch. I'm really grateful for your kind words and support xxx

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      Hi Izzygg.

      Thank you for connecting. Yes. It’s not easy when you’re faced with a household that believes that your healthcare providers are coddling you.

      I find myself thanking everyone for the slightest favor. Toast and coffee or tea brought up at 7:00 A.M.  I am so appreciative. I’m still asked if I checked on the dog during the day, that’s at least (3) times a day walking stairs. I am tired and not the Helen Reddy songstress singing “ I Am Woman “ . I’m not feeling too invincible right now! Thank you for sharing how your experiences are similar. 

      We will be fine!!!! 

      Please Stay in touch !!!

      🤗🤗🤗💕💕💕

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