don't know whay to do about my anxiety?
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Basically I suffered from shyness for a long long time, but it's starting to get worse. I have a boyfriend and a job and find it extremely difficult to communicate with his family and customers. I even find it hard to properly talk to my grandparents, aunties and cousins. I don't speak at all to my boyfriends family and whenever I'm near them I get extremely nervous and go shaky, with a lump in my throat, feeling like I could burst into tears. I constantly erry after any sort of communication with anyone except my close family, like have I said something stupid? have I made a fool of myself?
When I was at school I avoided every situation where I was suppose to do a presentation to the class, and other students use to pick on me a lot because I was very anxious. My friends use to fall out with me because I never really spoke.
I also get these horrific stomach cramps, that only seem to come on when I get nervous, which I saw a doctor about and got diagnosed with ibs. I also suffer from extreme ocd where I have to think about my past actions, for example what I have worn every day for the last week, what I did at what exact time, also rethinking conversations and what exactly was said. I keep a diary of the outfits I wear every day, just incase I ever think back
its getting so unbearable, I really cannot cope. I dread work everyday because I work in retail and I just can't talk to customers, my mind goes blank and I just can't find anything to say.
i would like to see a doctor but so afraid they would just say I'm being silly and there's nothing wrong. I really don't know what to do, my family have suggested to see a counsellor, but I have had counselling before and I just don't find it helps very much as I can't open up to them as much as I should
please help me,I'm really don't know what to
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iain68035 laurenjb
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laurenjb iain68035
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deirdre._03652 laurenjb
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I promise I will write you a long post at the weekend, I spent two thirds of my life. Agonizing like you.. ( it is awful I know ) .. nowadays my life is completely different, I will explain longer the weekend... my shyness was because of a severe stutter... which I still have occasionally, but nowadays I cope with it... please don't give up hope, I will post you over the weekend....sincere regards to you, DEIRDRE xxx
laurenjb deirdre._03652
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thank you for your help, I'm going to the doctor, hopefully they will be able to give me something to help
Ange1a laurenjb
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I do think you need to see your doctor for some help. I also agree with your parents that you could do with speaking with a councellor, or even a psychiatrist, about your OCD. (Your gp should be able to refer you for this).
When you went to seek counselling before did you ever try talking yourself around about what you were doing? For instance, I found it helpful to remind myself that they are paid to listen to my problems - plus they have heard most things out there - so nothing much will shock them.
Also, try and be honest with yourself - were you scared of opening up to them? I have suffered with OCD since the age of 7. Until the age of 25, I didn't seek any treatment, I just hid it from everyone. It wasn't until I started trying to think of how best to kill myself I realised that I needed to seek help.
But I was terrified about telling anyone about it as I was convinced people would think me mad and just put me in some sort of institution, however when I saw a counsellor, I found that this wasn't the case at all.
So I will say this to you now... You are NOT mad.... OCD is merely a coping mechanism in order to help you combat feelings of anxiety. It is a miserable condition to live with at its peak, I know. And it angers me how people laugh it off. When you are in the grip of any episode, it is anything but amusing!!!!
But you can get through it - but you will need to seek help. Possible through CBT. It will be tough and uncomfortable, but if you can stick it out, then you will get through it.
Your family sounds supportive, so talk to them. The more honest you can be about things to people, the easier you will find things to deal with.
Good luck - I hope you start to feel better soon.
laurenjb Ange1a
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Ange1a laurenjb
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