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Dont know why i do it

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vicky64718
vicky64718

Hi everyone. So last time i posted i was waiting to go and see my local addiction team and i now have a key worker who i see every 2 weeks. Ive been drinking 3/4 nights a week. I work night shifts usually 4 a week but thats just become permanent recently. At my appointment yesterday i made a plan to have ONE drink free night out of the 3 nights a week im off. This started yesterday. So i decided that tonight was going to be my drink free night. I was doing great i watched tv right up until 12.30 am. But ive not been getting on with hubby because of mu drinking and he refuses to spend time with me because of it and prefers spending time with his friends which kills me. Tonight he sat downstairs and wouldn't come up to watch tv with me. I don't know if subconsciously thats annoyed me. But im now drinking a bottle and a half of wine. I feel like such a failure.

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  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 vicky64718

    Posted

    Stick to your plan of drinking less and he might change for the better. At least you doing something about it.
  • Guest
    Guest vicky64718

    Posted

    Your not a failure and if you are at least trying then your husband SHOULD be with you 100%. That line For Better or Worse springs to mind !! You needn't be doing this on your own so maybe you need to speak to him and try and have him understand your addiction and why you are where you are with it ! Don't blame yourself for everything he should be supporting you this is a really hard addiction to kick and he MUST be there for and with YOU to help you get the help you need ! Good luck take care of YOU !!

  • JulieAnne101
    JulieAnne101 vicky64718

    Posted

    Hi vicky

    Feel for you. Robin and Smudger are both right. Your Husband needs to understand the nature of your addiction. How can he help you unless he understands? Very difficult to do this on your own, I would think.

    I know my Husband began to look at things in a more positive way once he knew I was on his side.

    He tried many times to reduce and stop but it didn't work for him, his consultant told him that over time his brain had been altered and that he could never drink again.

    I don't know how long you have been drinking, I don't know how bad your cravings are, but, you should understand that it's not a moral failing on your part. Some people can reduce and stop, because we are all physically different. What I am trying to say is that it's a physicallly brain altering addiction for most people, not a choice.

    Unfortunately, through the media's coverage of AUD and with the help of organisations like AA, it would appear that most of us believe that it is a moral failing. I was one of those that believed it was a choice that was being made. What really doesn't help is that there are a lot of doctors out there who ought to know better, that believe this too.

    You need to try and make your Husband understand just how very difficult this is for you.

    There are a lot of good people on this forum that will be able to tell you more about this than I can.

    Hoping this helps in some way

    Stop blaming yourself

    Kindest Regards

    JulieAnne x

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