Drinking almost every night to relax
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just lately maybe about a year I've begun drinking most evenings as a stress relief or relaxation thing it started as a coping thing with planning your wedding and as ending up (after I was married) as a coping with a wayward stressful hard to cope with 3 year old child don't get me wrong but I adore and love my child but she is so hard to handle sometimes I just want some peace the 3-4 hour in
Morning isn't enough(that's when she is at nursery £ but my darling husband just doesn't get the stress I am under he seems to think I sit on my bum all day which I don't I am very house proud person so I am always cleaning trying to make sure my child isn't bored but she become very naughty and I find it hard d to displine her he comes home and she can't take more than five mins of her and her behaviour I'm like come I have this 24:7 but does understand does he hell always being told I'm being nasty to him if I even bring up any kind concerning thing I have I'm frustrated so I end up drinking and then I feel relaxed surely it's not good for but I don't see what other choice I have tho ????
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jim_08546 Guest
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vickylou Guest
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I replied to this yesterday! Reply not here!
Your daughter is 3 years old! She's a wayward stressful,hard to cope with 3 year old girl"
?"morning isn't enough when she's only at nursery 3-4'hours each morning"
?Children need attention and interaction with people. I presume you work mornings and are trying to cram all your housework/whatever you've got to do into the afternoon. So yes, I can understand you getting stressed.
As someone who,had 3 kids under 5, and a husband working abroad, my house resembled a bomb site during the day. However so long as my house was clean, the rest didn't matter. From a very young age, they all put their toys away. My 18 month grandson understands when I say "come on let's tidy up" we do it together and turn it into a game.
You say youre very houseproud and always cleaning. They are only little for a short time, can't you do all this cleaning when she's in bed.
?"she' very naughty and I find it hard to discipline her" It sounds to me like she's trying to get your attention if your always cleaning.
I find it hard to believe a 3 year old is deliberately naughty. Yes she needs boundaries and will test you. So long as you're consistent and explain, "no, you'll get hurt, no we don't do that because ............" it isn't rocket science.
There's nothing wrong with relaxing and unwinding with a couple of glasses of,wine after,being at work, housework and running a home. However you don't say how much and what you drink,at night.
Maybe try and get your husband involved more. Insist he helps, you both work (what kind of work do you do, is that stressful or difficult ?)
Young kids can sense when someone is struggling and stressed, they pick up the vibes and get unsettled.
Its down to personal choice at the end of the day. A gleaming, spotless showhouse, or a happy contented child?
As the previous poster said "are you wanting parenting advice, or help and advice about your drinking?"
Social Services in most towns run parenting classes which might help. There's nothing wrong with asking for help. Unfortunately, babies don't come with a one size fits all instruction manual. It's a skill which like anything has to be learnt, a learning game, which can be fun, easy, hard for some just like most things in life.
vickylou
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I don't understand why people start a discussion, ask for advice and can't even be bothered to answer the questions we asked you.
RHGB vickylou
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vickylou RHGB
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Well it's too ridiculous to be anything other than a troll or a joke, for godsake the child is only 3 poor thing.
RHGB vickylou
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No, I think it was genuine but it was posted when the OP was under the influence and was too embarrassed to come back when sober and reply. I looked at it and thought, if they come back, I'll reply but I suspected they wouldn't and I'd be wasting my time.
vickylou RHGB
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Well I thought that too, as half of it didn't make sense. In fact I nearly made a caustic remark. She's got all morning to clean, and I don't accept that at 3 she can't discipline her daughter.
No need to be embarrassed on an alcohol forum!! Lol!! Where nobody knows you lol!
gwen45436 vickylou
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laura08496 Guest
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dear seizetheday, i understand your wanting to drink out of frustration. stress will do that to you. i think it's great that you are questioning whether there are other choices than having to drink to feel relaxed all the time. good for you to reach out and consider that. i used to drink myself. for stressfull situations and depression...every day, just to cope. but i stopped and feel better...and i'm able to deal with stress much better. and i wish the same for you. its not always easy to stop. i've seen some great support on this forum. maybe someone can relate to you and help you. please dont ever give up on yourself.