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stephxx07
stephxx07

I have had a really bad christmas, my bf has been cheating on me with my best friend and every thing been up in the air my anxiety is through the roof and i have been drinking a lot more than usual, im getting scared im going to have a heart attack and die. I keep getting hot flushes not been able to sleep can anyone help?

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  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 stephxx07

    Posted

    no good Steph. You have been through a lot. Not certain about hot flushes and I am afraid that I do not have any experience. Might this be linked to panick attack after you have been drinking and then wake up and crave more but cannot since you have things to do?? that is what I used to get before I stopped...just wondering. GP visit? are you ready?? I would. All the best and keep posting here and we will try to assist you the best we can and not mis judge you. Robin
  • Yossarian2
    Yossarian2 stephxx07

    Posted

    Hi Steph

    Sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time.  You  didn't state how much you normally dink so let's assume it's just socially.  No point in increasing your drinking because the man whom you thought loved you has been playing away from home.  You're stronger than that.  He's not worth the upset and nor is your best friend whom clearly isn't by her actions.  Infidelity is a concious act.  It is not 'an accident', and if the rat tells you 'she meant nothing' then he obviously has no real appreciation with regard to the act of love.  There is of course a timely phrase that comes to mind which is 'You can't ride two horses with one ass'  because of course a fall is eventual.  He's fallen off.  Leave him on the ground girl.  Personally,  I'm all in favour of you moving away, becoming very successful and not returning his calls.

    You don't need the drink, you need support of family (if you have any) and  strong friends (obviously not the one that was entertaining your boyfriend). Being unfaithful is and always will be wrong in my book.  All this 'we were on a break' nonsense.  Where did that come from?  If a person really loves someone else and there are problems they should really try to  resolve them without jjumping into bed with the next person who walks by.

    I really hope life gets better for you.  By the way booze does not make you sleep better in can inhibit your sleep and too much can alter your body's functions and give you hot flushes.  You're not going to have a heart attack or die.  Secret time now.

    I was put on to this site by the Samaritans in the UK.  My wife has been drinking heavily for a long time - most of which I wasn't aware of as I was working nights for ten years.  I was medically dismissed in July last year.  On average, my wife will start to drink at 09:am and watch 30 year old quiz shows on the T.V.  On New Year's Eve I was out in the garden smoking a cigarette and slipped on the decking twisting my newly implanted knee.  I was in a hurray to 'phone the police as next door's burgular alarm had been activated.  I told the police about my knee and they tranferred me to the ambulance service.  My wife heard me on the 'phone and came downstairs to ask what was wrong.  She had another drink, went back upstairs wherupon I hear an almighty 'bang'.  X-rays revealed  she'd broken her hip.  Blood tests revealed that her liver and  kidneys were failing.  On Wednesday she had her op to replace the hip but was tranferred to Critical Care 3 days'  prior to that.  She was seeing things that weren't there but were  real to her.  Yesterday (Friday when I visited ) I was informed that she was due a blood transfusion.  As  yet she hasn't had it due to high temperature.  Oh yes and she's developed anaemia as well.  We're facing a long battle and the biggest hurdle to overcome is for my wife to admit she drinks too much.  She's never hidden her drinking - I think a lot of it is bourne out of boredom.  Retired and no outside interests.  Steph I'm not asking you to advise on this situation - you have enough to contend with at the moment.  Just learn from this.  If my wife had never fallen should have died and until the autopsy I would not have known why.   I'm not writing any of this to scare - it's all genuine.  However if there's anyone else who reads  about your problem  and my reply perhaps they'd be kind enough to  advise me how - with the involvement of the Alcohol Team at the hospital - to get over to my wife that she drinks too much.

    Steph, I was you good luck and joy in the future.  May you find all your heart  desires.

    • Robin2015
      Robin2015 Yossarian2

      Posted

      HI Yossarian. A very complex situation for you and Step as you compare and very very hard to give advice. You yourself is very sick with pain in your knee which was ok two weeks ago but no longer. Your wife is realy sick as well and now is the time for to admit fully that she has hit rock bottom. For me it was 3 yrs ago 31st Dec and nearly lost my family since my wife, her sister and my parent said NO MORE...and also two small children I was looking after but no drinking and driving..overall did it and stopped 3 yrs ago and never drunk since. Rock bottom was it for me and perhaps this is it for your wife. May you both heal soon and best of luck! Robin
  • Phils
    Phils stephxx07

    Posted

    Dump the best friend and you probably already I hope have dumped the boyfriend

    Move forward with your life and don't look back, you will be happy, it takes time

    Dont let them live rent free in your head , if you do they still have control

    Acseptance is the price of freedom , you can't change what's happened but you can change you

    Use this as a lesson learn from the pain, it's hard I've been there 

    Be strong you deserve better , go for Gold nothing less

    This will pass 100% and one day you will look back and see it for what it was

    just a waist of you precious time

    take care

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