eating disorder

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I am in the start of recovery from an eating disorder but I feel my self falling back in to my old way and Im scared to ask my family for help . I feel like I have let them down they was happy and though I was getting someone where .

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    Hi Charlie - I felt the same over the past couple of days.

    I just saw an ad for diet pills on twitter, and felt myself buying them. 

    I'm so proud of myself for just asking for a refund on this.

    I find it helps to confide in friends / family. They help to motivate you.

    Eating disorder recovery is really tough, and nobody is perfect all the time.

    Don't be too harsh on yourself. You've done so well to get this far.

    On some days you might find it a bit easier, so remember how far you've come.


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      Hi katlouise 1989 u did really well asking for your money back i sometime wish it was easy . when I try to tell my family nothing come out plus they said they will put me in a clinic if it. Happen again
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      It sounds like you're being very brave admitting you are experiencing issues again.

      First of all, and this is hard to do, you need to be really honest with yourself.

      Are you deviating from your meal plan. If so how often is this happening?

      Are you finding compensatory behaviours creeping in?

      For example, I'm not too bad at sticking to the meals, but it's when I weigh myself, and it's higher than I expected that I have a panic. I have stuck with weighing myself fortnightly (although recently, I think that's been causing too much yoyoing as a result, so I'm actually looking at going back to weekly, and seeing if it will prevent some of the compensatory behaviours).

      Try and establish what you are doing or not doing (I try and frame things positively. It really helps biggrin e.g. I'm managing x + x, but I perhaps need a bit of help with y. Writing down in a food diary can help this too, as you'll know how you were feeling, and maybe what caused you to avoid eating something.

      You then have to explain this to your family. You are trying, but recovery is a life long battle, so some days will be more manageable than others.

      You are finding (y) particularly difficult at present, and (insert why if you know, otherwise explain that you are still trying to work out why it's difficult).

      Sometimes smaller steps can be beneficial because you can embed them feel ok and your progress is more sustained. It took me nearly 6 months to get in breakfast. Now it's my default. I can never not have breakfast.

      Whilst the physical recovery is a priority, remember how much progress you have made mentally too. 

      I'm a big fan of goal setting because then you can see real achievement. Maybe start to set goals around socialising (like seeing a film, going to a free summer event etc, remember they don't have to initially be about food!)

      Hope that helps smile


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      Hi Charlie.

      I'm sorry to hear you've had some bad days.

      Recovery from an eating disorder is like going on a diet but in reverse. It's easy to put off the hard thing. Getting back on track and eating.

      In DBT we call it radical acceptance.

      The truth is you need to start today, not tomorrow or when you get to your preferred weight. Otherwise the negative cycle will continue.

      Please try and help yourself today.

      Here supporting you.


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