eating plan help urgently needed

Hi Sally's a fine name can i call you george or would you rather i chose another name?

Your suggestion sounds great, it would be so useful to get some help and support! and feel like someone else actually cares about what im putting into my body cos atm i feel kind of unaccountable for how i treat myself.... if that makes sense.

How are you what is you situation? 

I am glad that Sally is OK by you. Certainly call me George, please. I see in your other notes that you have not had time to develop any friends. The next best would be a few efriends to be involved with you and to encourage you. I think working with you on menus and cooking methods day by day would help to get you going and help you keep good healthy meals going until you are confident you can keep it up by yourself.

Hi Sally, 

I am so happy to see all the friends you have and so much good avice and encouragement. I to have anorexia. It is the accumulated result of a bad reaction to an antibiotic. I lost 1 stone 8 pounds before we managed to stabalise my eating. Then it was agrevated by radiotherapy for prostate cancer so I am struggling again. I hate even the thought of some foods. My poor wife is in despair as she tries to find things that I will eat. But there are some things I can think on without feeling revolted - porrage; toast; marmalade; honey; chicken; lightly cooked cabbage; ground seeds mixed with hemp oil; hazelnuts; walnuts; almonds; oranges; apples; pomogranit juice. Not much to make a sensible meal with but she puts it together as best she can. She adds a few things that are "good" for me and I try to eat them to please her. I cannot bear to see a plate piled with food. It looks so . . . ugh!  Oh! I forgot, I still like a piece of rich fruit cake.

Sally, are you able to list the foods you could bear to eat? I should love to see your list. It will be quite different to mine I expect. Do please write it down for all your efriend to see and themselves be encouraged.

With much love, dear Sally,

Your efriend George

 

Hi elizabeth I come from london but im studying at a uni in little town in greater vienna nd havent been able to find any proffessional help here although im only just starting to acknowledge the fact that i think i need to seem someone propperly, because well ....i have no idea why im doing this to myself. As for eating with friends, i only started here 3 months ago, and whilst i have friends theres no one here i feel comfortable enough with just yet to tell my problems with food .....although they can probably tell from looking at me :s

Aw Neil thank you so much for your kind words and  support- the meal plan you've designed is great btw- I feel you really understand where I'm coming from with my problem! I know to most people splitting a banana into 4 separate parts throughout the day sounds crazy, but unfortunately that's kind of the situation I'm in atm 😕 I'm making slight progressions in the evening e.g finishing a whole can of green beans and not leaving some because I'm strating to realise I'm still hungry and i try not to stop because habit / ed tells me to stop. I think the reason I do better in the evenings is because I know I'm home for the day ....and there's no chance of someone trying to spring additional food on me through lunch invitations ect ....which Is silly really as I know il make an excuse either way regardless of what I've eaten for the rest of the day. I'm going do what you advise and break things up into small small steps just initially until my mind and attitude changes (even towards the basic carbs eg bananas and then build from there) I dont want to lose weight I really dont (and iv gotten rid of my scales ect) but I feel for me to recover properly, to actually start eating again, a low calorie safeish but progressively getting scarier diet is necessary...either way its still more then i am currently eating 😊 what is your situation Neil, if you don't mind me asking, I know you said your not a professional although you gibe sound advise ☺ have you or a loved one been through something similar to me? X

Hi there Sally, I'm a fellow anxiety and depression traveller amongst many on here who can empathis with your situation and understand it from your perspective.

when I'm going through an anxiety and depression episode my appetite goes and I just simply don't want to eat so I revert to eating small amounts but regularly and eat what I consider a balanced diet to ensure I at least get my vitamins, carbs and protein. I bananas are a super food and packed with everything you really need and good for the mind, porridge a slow release carb and sugars so keeps blood sugar levels good the oats are a fantastic healthy option, boiled egg full of protein also, toast again carbs and with a nice dollop of jam on it great snack. The chocolate biscuit is my treat and has the fats and wheat especially if oat chocolate biscuits.

We are evolved in some ways to graze rather than have set meal times and grazing is much better in many ways for us so it's a natural thing for us to do and one which our bodies can adjust very easily too.

if you get a lunch invite you have the choice to go or not but just explain that you won't be having a full meal but just a starter and enjoy the company, if you feel like having a bit more then go ahead if not eat as much as you feel comfortable doing.

Just remember you are in control and you are taking responsibility for yourself.

Try things out and if they are not working switch things around or come back for more advise, either way keep us posted!

Nxx