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ED at 34?

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lew-ashby
lew-ashby

I turned 34 not too many months back, I have never been clinically diagnosed with ED but I have ED without a doubt. I don't know how long I've had it only that I found out somewhere around age 30-32. I had been divorced for many years, probably about 10 years at the time and I hadn't had sex with anyone since my x-wife was my wife. During that time there were long spouts of using porn and masturbation so I don't know what if any psychological and or physiological detrimental affects that could have had on me. A few years ago when I started getting reconnected with an old friend she an I started having sex. Before sex there was of course a lot of kissing and making out which is were I noticed the first red flag(s). To my alarm while making out I noticed that my erections were very weak, blood would go to my penis but I doubt you could really even call it an erection. After we started having sex I was often times able to get an erection but I wasn't usually able to maintain it. I was able to maintain it most of the time as long as I remained in her pussy, but if I came out for any reason, even just to change positions I would likely loose it, at which point she would stimulate me orally which would USUALLY do the trick. I love having my dick sucked as much as the next guy but I shouldn't have to do that every time we just want to change positions. There were still occasions where I would go soft while inside of her, and if I had already cam once that night my ED problem were all the worse. We eventually quit talking for a few years and reconnected yet again a little over a year ago. During that time I've changed a lot of my habits and the way I live. I lost 40-50 LBS on keto, nearly cut out porn and greatly reduced my masturbation habits, started trying to run on the treadmill (this one's a bit spotty, some weeks are good some weeks less so with work and everything), and I've changed to a nearly 90% plant based diet. I did notice some improvement between now and a few years ago but the improvement is still less than desirable. I still go soft pretty quick but maybe it will last just a little longer. I still have a difficulty getting an erection after I've already cam but it's been more successful than it was a few years ago. Back in November I got the P-shot, it costs me $1,500 and everything I read about it online made it sound very promising. Other than a quick BJ we haven't got to hook up since then so I haven't got to really test out the results of the procedure. But with just me and my penis and my hands talking, I don't think the P-shot did very much. With just me here by myself I don't see much of a difference. Rewind back to my early 20's and when I was married I didn't have any problem getting or staying hard, my only problem seemed to be that it would take me longer and longer to cum the more times I cam in a given night/or day. But I remember always being able to get and stay hard, and if my wife even mentioned a BJ blood would fill my penis and I could think of nothing else. I don't know if this will help or not but now when I want to maintain a good stiff full erection for as long as possible, I have to keep giving my penis a little attention and I also have to tense up my legs, and maybe my butt to a degree to. I hope something I've said helps you to help me. Is there a test or procedure that I should look into? Thanks, I really appreciate any and all helpful responses.

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  • uncklefester
    uncklefester lew-ashby

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    Maybe venous leakage? Basically the blood isn't trapped in the penis so erections aren't reliable. I see you tried the P shot without much luck. I've read doing kegel exercises can help. Have you ever looked into Low frequency shock therapy?

    • lew-ashby
      lew-ashby uncklefester

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      I've done kegels but not on any regular reliable schedule. As for low frequency shock therapy I did look into Gainswave (if that's the same thing) but upon reading about it, it sounded like it did the same thing as the P-shot but just through another means, and I was going to have to travel further for multiple sessions as apposed to the P-shots one time treatment. But I'm not sure that the same thing but I believe that's what gainswave is. Is there a medical treatment for venous leakage if that's what it is? Thanks.

  • anon56922
    anon56922 lew-ashby

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    Talk to your PC and let him know your concerns. Any meds you may be taking could be the issue, ie blood pressure meds, anti-depressants, etc. Low testosterone could very well be the culprit as well - it was for me. If so, getting on a testosterone supplement could do the trick. Could be a myriad of reasons, but your best solution is to talk to your doc and allow him to do his/her thing. Embarrassing topic to discuss, but it goes without saying worthwhile in the end if a solution is found.

  • uncklefester
    uncklefester lew-ashby

    Posted

    Like any other exercise you have to do kegels regularly. Download an app for your phone. It will remind you when to do them and increase the "workout"

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