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[b:f06b07fdf4] sad Now I know how one feels when relatives et ,al fail to understand

how bloody you feel, it is very upsetting to say the least !! and of no help whatsoever . Joan T...[/b:f06b07fdf4]

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    Hi Eileen

    I just had to write and say \"snap\" with also experiencing the \"but you're a woman, you're supposed to be able to multi-task\". Whilst up some steps cleaning windows last week, I was trying to get a mark off the UPVC frame and suddenly heard this voice behind saying \"don't rub so hard\" - good job I only had a cloth in my hand as anything heavier would have seen me locked up! :x Think I'll come up that mountain with you!

    Hate the weight and noise of our Dyson and will definitely look up the new one - haven't got a birthday coming up (happy birthday to you by the way, whenever it was) so I'll probably get it for my Christmas pressie :roll:

    Fingers crossed for you that the flare quickly takes a hike!

    MrsO

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    Hi MrsO!

    Thanks for the birthday wishes - I shared my b'day with the Queen Mum so I used to have \"my tune\" played!!!

    Comet are currently doing a \"25% off your new Dyson when you bring in your old vacuum\" so my daughter gave me her useless (cut out after 5 min) Electrolux to take along! That was my b'day pressy from her! :lol: Her old Dyson had died and the husband said \"Dyson can't be THAT good, get a cheaper one\". That was in the early spring - and she couldn't find the receipt to take it back 2 months later when it didn't behave. The bloke at Comet laughed when I told him the story - especially at the Electrolux bit. The slender Dyson doesn't have anything like the motor but does the job and you can have a conversation while it's running. Good un-birthday pressy :lol:

    What is it that makes men think we haven't tried out all the variations of doing something and adopted the one that works best for us? Himself keeps asking \"why...\" ever since he retired from the NHS. Never offers to do the jobs I really hate (like cooking dinner) but is worse with the W question than either of the girls were!! And while we're on the subject - cleaning windows etc is a real no-no with PMR. Time for a window cleaner. I go with the grubby windows, once a year at the most. But we live on the second floor so the only downside is the loss of view.

    And JoanT - I have spent much time with doctors and nurses through my life! There are some nice ones but there are far too many who think they are something special. Like the Queen they also have to use the smallest room, just like the rest of us! Hope you got seriously stroppy with them!

    EileenH

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    Eileen - you really made me chuckle with thoughts of the Queen also having to use the smallest room.....bet her's is still bigger than mine though! :lol:

    MrsO

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    To all those suffering with husbands from time to time:-

    We went on a pre-retirement course some years back and one woman said \" I married him for richer, for poorer, but NOT FOR LUNCH!\"

    Most of you will know just what that means!

    OK now have to go and get his breakfast. No not really.

    Have a good Sunday, Pam

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    Hi Green Granny

    I really liked that \" not for lunch \" !!!! I took early retirement as my job moved a few hours a day up the motorway so I have now had twelve years of space !! Which I do enjoy

    My husband and I get on very well together and he is very supportive with my PMR but I do lots of things in the week which I enjoy He has another 3 years to work so when he does retire I am sure we will have to go through a period of adjustment as have lots of other couples we know He does know better than tell me how to do things I do every day !!!!!!

    We do each know the others strengths and weaknesses so hopefully it will be OK

    I feel with having time for me has been a great help with the PMR I have cut out a few activities I do to rest ( boring but necessary at present ) and I feel for all the PMR sufferers who have to travel and work every day as I know that the days I havent slept or rested enough I am a different person

    Best wishes to all

    Mrs G

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    Hi Green Granny

    \"not for lunch\"....so good! My hubbie still has a part-time job (nearly 75) so I get lots of space. At his pre-retirement meeting years ago, they were advised to \"build a shed at the bottom of the garden\".......he did!!!!

    Hope all's well with you PMR-wise.

    MrsO

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    Hallo Eileen and a belated Happy Birthday :redwine:

    Must look into this Dyson offer; I have TWO pathetic Electrolux uprights.

    One doesn't want to know about the tool hose actually holding the tools; the other does what my B in law calls \"faints\" which means you have to support the cleaner as well as yourself. What I need is a cleaner that supports me!

    For some inexplicable reason both my sister and I and our mother bought one of these no-hopers at the same time. However, in fairness, I have to say that one of our best-ever buys is an Electrolux strimmer on wheels. It is a magic machine and is all that stands between two acres of chaos and us.

    May you live as long as the QM

    Best wishes to all BettyE

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