Erection problems
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Hi, I'm 17 and I've never had a girlfriend, slept with a girl or any of that so I can't really say if I have a difficulty during sex because I have never had sex.
But basically when I think of a girl in a sexual way I won't get erect but say when I'm talking to my mates about sexual things such as a penis I will often get hard. Surely this does not make me gay because there is a girl I like? So why do I get turned on when mentioning a penis but if I were to talk about a vagina I wouldn't get turned on?
I can get an erection though but I w**k in a completely different way, my mates seem to w**k by getting their penis hard and then running their hand up and down it before cumming but I get no sexual pleasure out of that and I don't cum so instead I have to lie on the floor/bed and press my fingers against my penis whilst soft then I cum then I get an erection from it but that method doesn't work when I'm rock hard.
I'm starting to worry, Do I have a problem? How can I have sex if I want even w**k in the normal way?
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fvp70255 adam74472
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17... you shouldn't have any problem. but today due to free radicals, pesticides, processed foods, porn, higher estrogen vs testosterone contribute to erectile dysfunction aka E.D. Stop masturbating in that unusual way ( I stumbled on the name in something I read) anyway that's doesn't matter. go to Youtube, look for Matt Cook: the secret to regaining your sensitivity and pleasure. You may have desensitivity issues. Google up on: Unusual masturbation techniques causing problems? (Traumatic Masturbation Syndrome)
Pepasan adam74472
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Ther are no 'right' rules as to sexual pleasure, whether alone or with a partner. However, if you want a heterosexual relationship which may potentially lead to making babies, you will need to re-educate your arousal pattern, simply because you will need an erection to be able to penetrate your woman's vagina, and you will need the back and forth stimulus to lead to your ejaculating semen into her.
If you do want the conventional lifestyle of partnering for life and becoming a family, then it would be good to practice the kind of masturbation your mates do. This sequence is arousal (getting your penis hard with both fantasy - any fantasy that works - and physical touch), then simulated thrusting eg fingers around erect penis and up and down action, then continuing until orgasm and ejaculation.
If you contnue to masturbate to orgasm with a soft penis you will have trouble when having sex with a partner.
adam74472 Pepasan
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If I was trying to get an erection it either doesn't work or it won't last for long/will barely go hard. I usually get erections when I'm talking about sexual things e.g the penis and then i would often get them when I'm lying in bed.
I have tried using the normal w*****g method and it does feel good especially around the foreskin area but I'm never able to cum, I get more sexual pleasure using the other method and therefore I am able to cum.
tangki adam74472
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Hey buddy, I think that you are desensitized of women. I think the reason why you get erect while talking about penis and things similar is because you have a penis and your mates have a penis so you feel less stressed when talking about thaty kind of thing. Now when you talk about women- you haven't had sex with one yet so everything about it makes you nervous. I was the same way, I could not orgasm through oral or penetration. I could go for hours because they weren't stimulating me the way that I do best. It stressed me out for years until I realized that I was lasting 2 hours and more and more women were hearing about how good of a lover I am.
Because you masturbate differently ity may give you the advantage over your mates- because you can't orgasm unless you use your hands and that's something women may like