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im 29 years old and i am so exhausted with living life ive never been suicidal but i definitely think about it but i wont do it. ive struggled with pain for the last 7 years and have been in a relationship for almost 8 he is a narcissist but i am struggling so hard to leave. i know i need to why cant i?
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jan34534 chelsey11515
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many people are trapped in a relationship with a narcissist. The narcissist knows how to tap into our needs and can cause us to feel even more needy and afraid to be alone.their manipulation has a way of destroying their partners relationships with family, friends, etc. these are just a few of the things they do .
you are not enjoying life because of this relationship.
When you think of self harm, what you are doing is giving your power over to him. Then he wins. He doesn’t deserve to take your power ..
you need some support right now. Find a counselor you can talk to you or a friend or family member.
This kind of a relationship is very toxic and I’m not surprised if you are depressed. It’s complete control. I would not be surprised if he talked down to you and told you everything you do wrong.
Remind your self every day that you deserve better. Get some therapy. Use family and friends for support. They can help remind you what is reality and how you can have a better life.
you have to ask yourself " do I feel better about myself because of this relationship?
Does this relationship help me to grow?
Does my partner respect my right to come and go as I please and to see my family and friends?
does this relationship make me feel appreciated with unconditional love?
If the answer is no to any of these or all of these then it’s not a healthy relationship.
remember, A narcissist knows how to make another person feel helpless and afraid to go off on their own. You can rise above that! It’s actually a form of mind control. You can break free from that with some support.
wouldn’t it feel great to have total peace of mind? I wish you the best for a happy and joyful rest of your life. ❤
sam18386 chelsey11515
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seven out of eight years in pain is no joke, when your pain is this much pain you may want to not be here. being constantly like this is no joke and drags you right down. a narcissist won't understand you, is it a boyfriend who you refer to? look after yourself discover why you're in so much pain, learn to look after you first. i was told by a counsellor i was spreading myself too thin! unless you put you first how can you do anything for anyone else. i am still battling how to put myself first but am trying! you care about people which is why you feel you can't leave but by putting yourself bottom you'll have health issues forever. you matter. that's all!
bernipes chelsey11515
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Hey, first of all, congratulations on having the courage to share this with us. You know, recognizing that the person you are with is a narcissist is already a big step. Many people get stuck in this kind of relationship without realizing it and without admitting that outsiders advise them.
I'm sure that, for its enormous duration, this relationship is what is leaving you in this depressive state.
It is normal not to know how to get out of such a relationship precisely because narcissists know how to trap a person.
I suggest you surround yourself with people you trust and seek therapy. You need to strengthen yourself before anything else, to regain the self-esteem and confidence that this person probably took from you.