EXPOSED TO HSV2 4 DAYS AGO
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So I meet this girl online and she seems fine. We go out to eat, and we go back to my place. I try to initiate sex and she declines but we kiss and I finger her. The same thing happens the next day. The following day which is Sunday she finally gives in and we have sex I use a condom. 5 mins in I open the lights and the condom is popped. I take it off, ask her "Are you clean?" She says "yes" and I put it back in unprotected since I was already exposed to her fluids. In total sex maybe lasted 10 to 12 minutes. Im not sure how long i was completely exposed. Could of been 8 out of 12 minutes. I urinate afterwards and head to work. Around the afternoon she texts me a lengthy text on how she's hsv2 positive for genital herpes and how sorry she is, etc etc. Needless to say I lost my mind. After calming down I do my research for a 1 time exposure and saw my 96% chance of being clean. At this moment I look and feel fine, but I'm just terrified of this situation. If any doctors can let me know my odds or anything in this time please chime in. I have to wait 3 months to be sure and it's just really upsetting how someone could lie to you in your face about something so serious.
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DaisukeShino mike68421
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Hi Mike. I hope you are doing well. I just want to say that it is unfortunate that what happened to you happened, but I would say that you should be glad that she told you afterwards. While that is something that should not be celebrated, many of the people on here (including myself) do not even know how they were exposed to HSV. I suggest that you go and get tested after 12 weeks to find out whether you are positive for HSV2 or not.
Also, just an advice, asking if someone is "clean" is not an effective proctection against STIs.
mike68421 DaisukeShino
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Do you think I'm likely to have it at this point?
DaisukeShino mike68421
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No one can really say bro... I mean you can either get it or not. Chances are really 50/50. But I would say to not let it consume you. While getting an STI is not something people look forward to, but HSV is something that many people get. Stay positive, and positive things will come up.
Keep us posted
FelizCastus mike68421
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The odds really vary a lot, depending on how long she's had it, whether she's naturally a high volume shedder, whether she was shedding at the time, and whether she is taking daily suppressive medication for it.
There is one study that put the female to male transmission risk at 4% per *year* (not per encounter). That's no condoms, no meds, but also no known outbreak at the time. However, this study only looked at long term discordant couples, which is quite different to your scenario, so the odds in your case would probably be higher than this.
Best thing is to remain vigilant for symptoms and test for HSV IgG (not IgM) at 3 months. Not much else you can do, unfortunately.
Raeraera90 mike68421
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I'm thinking that's probably why she said no the first two times. Then guilt hit her.
barbara28646 mike68421
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Mike sorry to hear your circumstances. I too was deceived by a hsv2 carrier. Only reason he told me was because he had a break out. Humans have no self decency anymore. It is wrong if anyone to take your choice from you. Most people with hsv forget how they felt when someone did that to them. I can tell you this to give you some hope in all this. I was tested and my test can back negative. So you can be exposed and not get it. I do however know it has changed my point of opinion of people and how I handle having a sexual encounter with anyone. I always tell who ever I'm on a date with what happened and my test results. I also let them know even with a negative test result that I still worry and I want them to know I fear my test were wrong. I want them to know what they could possibly be getting into. I will never again have unprotected sex unless I get married to an honest guy. I don't have sex with my dates anymore until I know they want a serious relationship. I want to not only protect myself but my kids and grandkids too. Life isn't just about me. I won't be with anyone without then having an std test first. Hang in there and best of luck to you. Remember no matter what always be protected no matter how clean it looks. I know how evil manipulating and conniving some women can be. Sorry women but it's true. Also one thing most people don't know is that you're never tested for herpes or HPV unless there are symptoms so most women don't even know that they have any of the stuff since it's not tested for one unless their are signs. So it's best to be protected at all times.