extended fam has written me off for saving my Grandmother

I GREW UP WITH A VERY DISTANT AND STRAINED RELATIONSHIP WITH MY GRANDMA. As I never informed of my grandmas condition, ONLY when i got wind of the severity of her living conditions, I put my life on hold and took the first flight out to her home to see what was place for myself. My grandma was 96, and living in her home alone with no assistance and had about 15 falls in a 6-9 month period. She was very limited in her mobility and was on a taquito survival diet. I observed that she would forget to turn off burners, heightened paranoia like accusing me of stealing a frying pan and a can of soup. I was not allowed to use her stove to cook, ordered to sleep with the door open. She was a prisoner in her own home. She isolated herself from everyone, and felt I (33) was out of line for sitting on the patio in CA, at 9pm and then started to lock me in the house resulting in me now living in a fire hazard as there was no exit out the house as there were bars on the windows. Working in the medical field, I was not a stranger to such behavior. I called upon immediate medical intervention and she was deemed no longer fit to live in her home alone without 24-7 care. MIND YOU, I did sound off to the responsible parties for dropping the ball of what should have taken place YEARS ago if not decades! I was successful in my efforts to remove her from her home that she accepted was no longer an option. I had her seen by a geriatrician vs an internal med doc. She was put on an SSRI that significantly decreased her anxiety and depression. I advised her of her options, but felt strongly about her relocating to MN, where i reside so I can ensure her health care needs arent being neglected. She recently turned 97 and is thriving and resides with my family. I have never seen this loving side of my grandma but am so blessed I got to and now shes my person. However, my family has written me off. My Uncle, cousin, aunt, for, what it feels like, rescuing her. I did say harsh things to them, as i was beside myself for having such knowledge of this and doing NOTHING. My cousin living 2 hours from her and never checking on her and then demanding that I give her daily updates when i had to fly from MN to CA to take care of what she neglected to and had 30 years to address and failed to. Getting barking orders from my Uncle who lives in another country that wrote my grandma off and has not spoken to her in 2 years! The toll it takes to watch your grandparent decline right before your eyes, now im the bad guy for doing what i felt was right. She is safe now, getting appropriate care, and 24-7 care. Im not sure how I should react to them as I dont want to alienate them from my grandma, but they arent speaking to me for me to give them updates and its just an awkward position to be in... HELP!

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