Extremely lonely and depressed

Hi kittroy,

We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologies for contacting you directly. But if you are having such thoughts then please note that you are not alone in this, and there are people out there that can help.

If you are having these suicidal thoughts then we strongly recommend you speak to someone who may be able to help. The Samaritans offer a safe space where you can talk openly about what you are going through. They can help you explore your options, understand your problems better, or just be there to listen.

Their contact details are on our patient information leaflet here: https://patient.info/health/dealing-with-suicidal-thoughts , which also offers lots of other advice on how you can access the help you may need.

If you are having such thoughts then please do reach out to the team at the Samaritans (or the other people detailed in our leaflet) who will understand what you're going through and will be able to help.

Kindest regards

Patient

Kittroy

If you feel you whant to end it all contact NHS Information Line Tel 111 and explain how you are feeling, they will triage and if needed arrange assistance.

If you are lonely, do you have any Mental Health Day Centres in your are where like minded people meet and befriend. There are many out there who are like you and are looking to find friends.

If you book and attend some night classes that can also help as yo will again meet people who have the same interests as you have. You could also try walking groups in Spring/Summer and again you will get to meet more people that will help you

Any diversion will help, it may be a Singles Club, that will also help. Friends on the net I am always cautious to meet, if you do meet in a busy place 

BOB

Hello Kittroy. I hear you suffering and I hear your fear of people. And I want to tell you how sorry I am that you lost your mother I have lost my mother also and I know that is a huge loss in your life. Like you I was very close to my mother. 

Have you given any thought to taking a small step at a time and making a phone call to one of the people mentioned in Bob's email or the Samaritans. Kittroy your mother would not want you to live this way and she would want you to reach out for help just one tiny step at a time. Can you do that? Or call your GP. Once you make your first call..the depression has lost some of its control over you. Will you get back to us? Diane. 

Hi kittroy - have you ever had any counselling over the loss of your mother? That could be a start. What do you like doing? Hobbies at all? Decide what you want to do, what gives you pleasure and search for a group that does it. How about joining a yoga class, or something along the lines of your gym where you have something to focus on and the opportunity to meet like-minded people? Loneliness is a common ailment today - I live that way too, which is afar cry from the glittering, social days of yesteryear. The first steps to socialisation will be difficult, but once in the routine, you should relax and be more comfortable with others. The isolation has become an entrenched habit, and it will take courage and determination to break it. You can do it. Good luck to you - and sorry about your Mom.