Face rash

Thank you

Wouldn`t say it`s a rash a such (have had hives this year!) but methinks what about if someone was allergic to pred, wonder what the alternative would be.......there must be people who have been.....

If I remember rightly Linda's original description was definitely more like the facial rosacea - central face area and pimples/acne-like.

It would be a case of trying one of the other corticosteroids - they all have a slightly different structure.

OK, I did wonder, because I haven't read on the forum someone actually saying they were "allergic", but in the years you have advised, I'm sure you have.....

People say they're "allergic" to something - when really they mean they're intolerant. And there is a big difference!

Yes, I am intolerant too gliadin in gluten......but not celiac.......but I do know I'm intolerant to OH sometimes!.......well, after 40 years........

I feel the cold more than him, and it's definitely getting colder here in the UK! Expect you have seen snow recently?....

It snowed all day on Wednesday - we had just got home from Malta where Monday was shorts and t-shirt at 20C. Since Thursday morning it has been -10C or colder in the morning, hasn't got above -5C all day. Tad parky...

Yes - we met 47 years ago and I'm definately getting intolerant of him! I was really allergic to my older daughter - had pre-eclampsia with her and BP was IRO 220/170 the day she was born. Went down to normal with the epidural and never rose again, no instability at all, doctors were amazed. But boy - does she raise it now and again even now!

But it's the other way round in this household: he's permanently cold and I would like doors open. Not at -10C though...

Our 50th wedding anniversary was last Saturday.  Can't really get my head around that.  I look back on what I think was a largely wasted life.  ;(

Yes, even as adults our children (so to speak) can worry and annoy us........but it's the grandchildren's future that I ponder over most, but then I console myself by thinking they won't have the comparisons maybe that we do.....there has been such drastic changes in the world!.....

It's not as cold here as you have.....but saw snow this week first time for a few years.......

I haven't been able to decipher your mark after your sentence... so if you are serious, that's sad, having said that.............I haven't had a totally easy 40 years either by no means!

I know what you mean though, where have all the years gone.......

Anhaga: Congratulations! You must have been a child bride (and yes, I know you are a bit older than me!)

I don't think so - to be married for 50 years is a major achievement - not a wasted life.

It was meant to be a sad face but I mistyped a semi-colon instead of a colon.  Yeah, every few years I go through a time where I pay attention to what's been going on, and one of those times I had an image of my life leaking though my hands like sand, which picture came into my head again recently.  I know we never can know what kind of influence we've had and maybe that's okay, but from a very idealistic youth it seems I accomplished nothing. But don't worry, I always manage to push the darkness away....  And without darkness we wouldn't know light either....

I am close on your heels with the 50 years. It's a medal I'm looking for. I'd have got less for murder.......all meals made and no housework. 😂

Today I'm not complaining.  He made supper, including salad, and cleaned up afterwards - I only had to come by afterwards to get the things he's missed.  

I was too young.  Had to get my father's permission to make it legal!  I was still working on my BA.  But the early years were fun, we travelled and entertained and went on to further education and I thought I could write books or maybe be an artist....   And then after ten years we had children and everything changed.  I love them dearly, they are wonderful people, but you know those stories about how if you fall among the fairies you wake up and find twenty years have gone by?  The little people are your children, and they steal those years away.

I wasn't sure whether to congratulate you or not when I read your original post. 50 years is a long time and in days gone by couples seldom reached that stage as one of them would probably have died at a fairly early age in todays terms. Congratulations, Anhaga. In this day and age it is also an achievement as many couples have divorced and often remarried. I think we can all find reason to complain and a number of my friends are widowed and life has changed dramatically for them so I try to remember that.

It's good that you had supper made for you and I know what you mean about having to finish off afterwards. 

I hope today is a good day for you.

Me too!!! But still a few years to go for me...

As I type this my husband is chopping veg for this evening....he will do most things except ironing (did once iron a shirt when I was in hospital....but only the front of it...he said that is all people see!) and cleaning bathroom.....he doesn't have a choice really, I am in pain a lot and would be worse, but why shouldn`t the chores be shared.  My husband can be stubborn and difficult, but I don`t react now as I would years ago....... Relationships change a lot with age and circumstances I think.  I do like a quiet uneventful life, as my childhood wasn`t.......as you say without darkness, there wouldn`t be light......

What age was "legality" then? It was 16 in Scotland - and I was 21. Everyone said we were too young - of course we didn't think so - and in retrospect, perhaps we were. OTOH we had nearly 8 years getting ourselves sorted out and established before having the girls. But just as we had started our family the chance came to go to Germany - which we seized with both hands, going for a year and staying for nearly 10. The children we taken along. Financially it left us a long way behind the rest of the family who never tried doing anything so risky - we left secure jobs and sold up to be able to go. David's brother went to the USA for 2 years with cast-iron guarantees to come back to but I don't think he had as much fun or learned as much and our memories are worth a fortune. Then our older daughter went to Uni and left a teenage mum. So I am a long way ahead of the rest of the family as a grandmother - good in some ways as I skied with them, did things lots of grannies can't manage, but couldn't do other things as we still worked a long way away. But now they are teenagers, old enough to drive, while I'm at an age where little grandchildren would be nice - like the rest of the family have.

David's answer to cooking dinner is to go out. He does wash up the pans - and I mop up the puddle he never sees...

That’s it exactly! When my second went off to Uni it was if I woke up to the realisation that I’d spent the last 22 years totally focused on the well being and needs of my children. Suddenly I was free to think about myself - strange but interesting! 

 

Hello Eileen, I've read your many wise emails and would like to thank you for always being there for so many of us. But this question is not health related for a change. I enjoyed reading your text about your travels and can't quite make out where you are now living. I think Colorado am I right? 

Freda 

No - in the mountains but in northern Italy, the Dolomites. We are about 3+ hours north of Venice, an hour and a bit from Innsbruck. Google the Kronplatz ski region.

Oh, that did make me laugh....ironing the front of the shirt. He'd be correct most of the time. My OH does the ironing which started on a camping holiday when I suddenly realised that I worked full time and this was my holiday too. He's done his own ever since and often does mine. His health isn't good so I feel that I need to manage the housework. I've had cleaners but that was when I was working and I can't be bothered with another hassle. I clean when I feel like it and if I know people are coming. There are always other more interesting things to do and life is too short to be concerned about housework.

Haven't you come across that before? Used to be suggested to save time! Mine CAN iron a shirt - but it takes him so long I have to leave the room! 

That's my answer too if I don't feel inclined though often I'm inspired by looking in the fridge and cupboards. Today I'm not but I'm trying to empty my freezers so I took something out for both today and yesterday.

Some people don't live to see their grandchildren so there is another positive to add to the ones you've already mentioned, Eileen.

The problem is that time passes too quickly at this stage in life and, hopefully, the 50th will soon come round for you both.

It's mild here today.....relatively speaking. It's been bitterly cold recently and we had flurries of snow but it didn't amount to much and barely lay. I think it's to turn cold again later in the week.

I'm sure I have but it appealed to my sense of humour when I visualised the scenario. I never stay when mine is ironing because I'd probably have to bite my tongue.

Sounds like a great location, thanks. Freda

My reaction to Alendronic Acid looked just like chicken pox which, as a primary school teacher, I'd seen often.

I`m not taking AA, or that would be a possibility.....couldn`t tolerate it,  only Adcal.....thanks anyway......

He presses the trousers, because his mother was useless at it.....so he has always done them....

I think I have posted on here before, there is a poem .....Dust if you must......but have to say, we have had more cobwebs in the last 12 months than I can remember......but of course I can`t reach them!

Oh, my memories of the Dolomites......staying in Malcesine  (spelling?).......Lake Garda.....years before PMR.......soooooo  jealous.....

Recognise the cobwebs. I usually see them when I look up but that's not often enough!! I cleaned my windows (inside) the other day as they were a mess. I hate that job and they never look good. I sprayed on vinegar and water and the rooms I did smelt like a chip shop! 

In Nova Scotia you could get married younger, I don't actually know the age, could have been 16 but maybe 18, but only if you had parental permission if you were under 21.  I was 20. I have heard that becoming a grandmother is compensation (reward) for motherhood, but not yet for me.... 

My problem appears to have been that the storyteller in me vanished while I was raising the children.  I used to naturally do all those things authors do, you know, keeping a notebook to jot down ideas, etc.  I wrote a couple of books which sit, as early work does, in a drawer.  And somewhere between child two and child three that part of me went away and never came back.  "Where did the words go? / Lost in a blizzard of everyday / Like flowers beneath the snow / Waiting for spring."

Leaving the room does hurt less!!!!

Bitterly cold? -15C overnight here...

No cobwebs - no spiders funnily enough. But dust bunnies to stock a zoo....

Haha, last night I dreamed that there were wads of cobwebs and cat fur in the ceiling corners of my room.  Suspect it was triggered by this discussion, plus news of the giant fatberg in London.....  

Yes, it's amazing how the mind works, with dreams etc, my son bumped into an old work college of mine, that night after being told, I had a dream I was shut in a room with her, that was the day I was in a small room on my Rheumy visit!!........neither pleasant.......

It does.

It's balmy here in comparison.

Apparently it is cold even by our standards - the coldest early December since 2005 when it got to -17C - and I lied, it was -16C last night...

It seems to be have been colder this year than in previous years. I was up north last week and there was quite a bit of snow even to lower ground. They are forecasting a proper winter this year. Let's hope it's followed by a decent summer.

We at least are used to proper winters! Winter tyres are compulsory, you stay at home until it stops snowing and the roads have been cleared and the roads in the village aren't fully cleared or salted, just gritted. And at the end of the winter they hoover the grit up and recycle it...

Sounds very civilised and sensible. Family have winter tyres but we don't. Have an AWD and just stay in if we have no reason to go out. Saves the nerves and car!

The winter we returned to the UK it snowed at the end of October and we were STUCK. We rushed out and got winter tyres and it didn't snow again! But even with cold roads it is so much better so we have always bought a new car and 2 sets of tyres - you only need 4 winter ones, a summer one is fine as a spare as long as it is the same size. They live a long time and there are few cars you don't get through at least 2 sets of tyres before they die.

Perhaps I'll rethink this one. Isn't it typical when we do something and it all changes?