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Failure in life

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tim08642
tim08642

Failure in life

Hi guys,

I am a 26 Year old guy and I feel like I’ve failed in life.

I’ll list the reasons as to why I feel depressed below:

Career:I have two degrees (a masters and bachelors) which I was super proud of but now as it hasn’t resulted I the career I have so far I feel embarrassed to have them,I’m not on a salary that someone with those accolades would be on

Living with parents:I was living in alone when I moved city but I moved back with them shortly before covid..and I am saving up to get my own place however I feel like such a loser living at home

Friends: I don’t have a big group..however now I have started using bumble BFF I have made a friend and my total count of friends is 3,however I don’t see them all the time and they have girlfriends and at times it makes me feel lonely!

Girlfriend: I am wanting to kind of settle down,I do have moments where I feel lonely and would like another person to share my life with however I feel undesirable..I’m not the ugliest guy in the world,I have being with some pretty women however lately I feel in a super drought !

Comparing: I always compare myself to others,every person around I compare too and it’s horrible! Even my brother I’ve started to despise as he has a better paying job than me?better looking and more friends.

Honestly I just feel like life is pointless now.

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  • jan34534
    jan34534 tim08642

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    hi tim. everything in life and every success in life begins with how you look at the issue.you are saying that everything happening to you is a failure. I don’t see it that way at all. Here is why you are not a failure ....

    1. you have earned 2 degrees. that is something to be very proud of! That took a lot of work on your part to accomplish. There are thousands of people that haven’t gotten that far. You are still young. Most people when they first start out working don’t earn what they had hoped they would earn. But that will come with time. get some experience. Many people overtime will use their initial experience to get to a higher level or to get another job, etc. be patient with yourself. You are doing well.
    2. there’s absolutely nothing wrong with living with your parents at this time. I know you would prefer not to, but for now it will help you out. This is not going to be forever. It’s just a short snippet of time in your life. Another thing is, appreciate being with your parents and enjoy them . I don’t have mine anymore and I would give anything to have them back. Life is short. Plus, you are saving money to get your own place. A loser would not do that. Think of all the positives.

      3.there is plenty of time for making friends. It’s nice to have them, but it’s OK if it takes some time. sometimes we look at other people and think they have wonderful great lives, but that’s not always necessarily true. Everybody goes through something in their life. In every family there are issues but not everybody shares those with other people. i’m sure there are many women out there that would be a great match with you. It’s just that it might take some time and that’s OK. It’s better to be alone for a while then to be with the wrong person. It’s just a game of Numbers. Maybe out of 50 women there would be a few that would be comparable . so the more you get out and do things the higher your chances are of meeting the right person. But don’t stress about this. and please don’t compare yourself to other people because that does you absolutely no good. It just makes you feel miserable. I did that for years and what a waste of my time!

    3. be grateful for the things that you do have. I wake up every morning and tell myself what that I am grateful for my life, for my family, for a roof over my head, food, my car, and on and on.whether you know it or not, you have a lot to be grateful for! Focus on working on being more positive, being a fighter for yourself, working hard to get what you deserve. Things will come to you when you have that attitude. Sure it might take a while as it does for a lot of people but that’s OK! The main thing is you are trudging forward , One step at a time. It doesn’t matter about your friends or how much they make or who they date. It makes no difference! their lives are not perfect. Some may not even be happy. It doesn’t matter as far as your life goes. You are your own person. Set your own goals. mental attitude is everything! You will be your OWN success story! ❤❤❤
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