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Fairly certain I have herpes

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Lisa9871
Lisa9871

I've been dating a man that is HSV 2 positive and we had sex for the first time just about 11 days ago. He takes acyclovir daily and we used a condom. Although from what I've read, transmission seems low under these circumstances but I've had a lot of symptoms of a first outbreak.

The day after we had sex, I began itching and there were 4 bumps sort of in a row on my labia. I chalked it up to being ingrown hairs/ razor bumps as they never ulcerated and went away after just a few days. I could also see the hairs within the bumps. About 6 days later I got the flu like symptoms including muscle aches, fatigue and nausea. 9/10 days later the flu like symptoms peaked and I felt as if I had the stomach flu. Now at day 11 post sexual encounter, I the symptoms have subsided but I noticed a singular bump on my left shoulder blade that eerily resembles a herpes blister. I have eczema and singular itchy bumps will often pop up on different areas of my body and go away the same day but this one looks different. I plan to go to the clinic to find out exactly what is going on but my questions are

1) How likely is it that the first bumps on my labia were the outbreak?

2) Is it possible that the bump on my shoulder blade is also herpes?

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  • nikki1230
    nikki1230 Lisa9871

    Posted

    Based on what you're saying I'd imagine it's unlikely you contracted the herpes. Especially if he didn't have an active outbreak. I question if you've simply psyched yourself out. You can actually physically develop symptoms if you obsess on things. I mean, yes, it's possible because the only 100% protection from ANYTHING is abstinence. As far as your shoulder, probably is nothing but again, you've probably psyched yourself out a little bit. Take a deep breath, go ahead and get checked out. The anticipation is worse than any of this. Herpes is common and though I wish I could take it back and make a better decision I can't. But, it's not at all the end of the world. I'm glad you have this person a chance and also that he was honest with you. That means a lot to us in this predicament. I'm sure you're fine. Maybe follow up...Let me know how it goes. I'll be here no matter what. Chin up smile

    ~Nikki

    • Lisa9871
      Lisa9871 nikki1230

      Posted

      Thank you so very much!! I really appreciate your reply as I've been completely shaken up about it since the experience. I tend to assume the worst before I know the answer.

      I still plan on having a conversation with my doctor to see where to go from there. Could you possibly share with me your experience during your first outbreak so that I can be more informed for the future?

    • nikki1230
      nikki1230 Lisa9871

      Posted

      I know EXACTLY what you're going through. Remain calm. Either way it's going to be ok. My first outbreak I thought I had razor burn. But the thing is it itches like crazy. I mean to the point where you want to scratch it raw. Flu like symptoms are common with it. In your case, just relax. You took precaution and honestly you'll hear this n that but the fact is that person would've had to have a hell of an outbreak. But you used a condom. He was honest with you. If he felt symptoms I'm sure he would've abstained. If you're anything like me your obsessing over it in your head and making it worse. I've been HSV-2 positive for 10 years and have virtually not even had an issue. So either way you'll be fine. The whole damn world will eventually have some form of this sh**. It's as common as a dang cold. No biggie. The "name" of it makes is seem so much worse than it even is.
    • Lisa9871
      Lisa9871 nikki1230

      Posted

      Thank you for sharing your story. Like you said earlier, I may have just been stressing about it too much. I didn't realize how uninformed I was about HSV until I started researching it. The fact that we used protection and he wasn't having an outbreak has been what's kept me calm throughout these past couple of weeks. Thanks again!
  • Koolredd
    Koolredd Lisa9871

    Posted

    I don't think it's herpes . I have type 2 and you don't get them in that area .., never heard of it ,

    I wouldn't stress it.

    The bumps don't mean anything especially if they are puss filled or red like sores ..

    Your going to be in some serious pain during your first outbreak let me also say that .. You will seriously know if you get infected.. At the same time it never hurts to get tested and know that your 100 percent healthy .

    I've never heard of a female being with a man that is infected (and approves of it) all the stories on here are about men who have herpes but secretly hide them and later on infect the female and leave her...

    I love your story it's motivation to honesty !

    How long have you guys been together ? Has he had genital herpes for a while? How did he tell you ?

    Do you guys do oral sex (not trying to get too personal, serious question)

    I'm in a similar position only I'm the one that is infected..,

    Don't worry to much , symptoms and your first break out will be horrific , hold your chin up people that take suppressive medicine and use condoms the percentage of catching this disease is down to 3 percent.,

    • Lisa9871
      Lisa9871 Koolredd

      Posted

      Thanks for your reply!

      Im feeling better about the situation now after hearing real life experiences.

      We have only been dating for a couple of months. He was diagnosed about 6 months prior to us starting to date. He told me at the end of our first date, which honestly I appreciated. He just sort of let it out and told me what he knew about it. I went home and took to the Internet for information. We even researched it together the next time we were together. I sort of just saw it as things you're "supposed" to mention on a first date, like kids, previous marriages etc.

      I've received oral sex a few times, but only given once for a short period of time because I felt uneasy. I'm not completelt comfortable with giving yet.

    • Koolredd
      Koolredd Lisa9871

      Posted

      I have the upmost respect for your guy .. And you .

      I guess people hide it out of fear that someone will deny them attention or attention. But you guys seem to be doing things correctly and I love that .

      Does he often have breakouts with the medicine he is on ?

      Did you feel submissive at first about it ?

      I can honestly say before this if someone would've told me they had herpes .., I wouldn't dismissed them no questions asked .

      Your a wonderful young lady Lisa & I know everything is just fine . Just keep everything safe .

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus Lisa9871

    Posted

    The bump on your shoulder is totally unrelated, and if hairs were visible inside the other bumps, then I doubt it was herpes. Usually it wouldn't clear so fast and the flu-like symptoms would be at the same time, not days later.
    • Lisa9871
      Lisa9871 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Yeah, I've been able to explain most of my symptoms. I may have just worried myself sick as a previous poster suggested. There was just part of me that though was no way that all of it could just be coincidence. So here I am looking for insight from real sources. Thank you for helping me out!
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