Falling in love and Menopause

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Fell in love at fifty. Crazily in love with a 35 year old man. While the mind is having crazy feelings the body is not cooperating! The breasts, vagina, clitoris don't seem to have much sensitivity . Orgasms are rare and gone in the blink of an eye. This is sooo horrible. Doctors are so ambivalent about it. They just expect one to accept it. My gynac after much persuasion ( and pretending I have horrible hot flashes and insomnia) put me on Premarin which is a conjugated estrogen. I also use estriol cream and an otc progesterone called naturogest. I recently bought a testosterone supplement from my fitness store but the guy said it's for men and may not work for women. Really, this is so frustrating. Everyday I think of ending my relationship. This is so unfair. I think my partner deserves better. In fact, I think we women deserve better. Why the heck is there no female Viagra?? Are there only otc testosterone creams available? Because my doc refuses to prescribe any.

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    Hi there, I believe tibolone hrt has some testosterone in it and is good for ladies whose libido is suffering. I have been taking it for two years now. Couldn’t take other hrts cause of migraine

    I still have lots of symptoms but I’m still managing to maintain a good physical relationship with my husband 

    Hope this helps, good luck x

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    Wonderful for you to have found such love in your life. The problems you describe are real. Sensitivity  lack of orgasms, etc. All part of hormones depleting as we go into menopause. Hard to find doctors that really know what goes on with women at this stage in our life and treat it properly. I started seeing a holistic doctor over 2 years ago because of this. My own GP, a female, didn't want to do anything aside from anti depressants. Ugh! I was well prepared for this speech as I have done my homework on what happens to our bodies with depleting hormones before I made my appt to see her. There is very good bio identical hormones available including testosterone for women. I am on it. It works, its a vaginal compounded cream.I too suffered with these problems you mentioned and testosterone will fix it. I don't have faith in OTC testosterone. My husband is on testosterone pellets and it has made a huge difference in our relationship.  Women need testosterone too. There is no reason to feel like you can't have a wonderful fulfilling relationship with your partner. If you decide to go to an alternative doctor they will most likely run  blood work and prescribe compounded hormones that are bio identical. Don't settle for what you got. Message me if you would like to know more. I won't even get into premarin being prescribed. Good luck. 

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    One more thing to keep in mind. You may only need testosterone. You say you had to pretend you were having hot flushes to get prescribed what you did. There is testosterone pellets for women too keep in mind so you can go that route too. Also,  insurance companies don't cover any of this stuff. It is out of pocket and can get pricey at first but once your blood work is done and you get rolling its not bad to maintain cost wise.  Not sure where you live but pellets are becoming more and more popular and you should be able to find a place that does them around you. Pellets are generally placed in the behind two or three times a year depending on the doctor and how fast your body uses the hormones. Testosterone alone can solve lubrication, sensitivity and orgasm issues for some women. 

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