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julie8243
julie8243

Hello,

I am totally new here but I am looking for advice (which I desperately need). I might ramble a little bit in this so I apologize in advance.

So I am 18, I have been in college for 2 semesters. I grew up with a ridiculously active father as an only parent. He did not believe in being sick, unless you were dying, he did not agree with going to the doctors office.

I was super active, elite figure skater, climber, runner among others.

When I started college I was feeling pretty healthy and was shooting for the aviation program but now I am not sure I will be able to maintain my medical through the FAA.

I have been having really bad leg strength, and control. Even simple things like walking from room to room in the apartment has become awful, I fall down and I have stopped trying to do many of the activities I grew up doing for fear of making whatever is making this change worse.

Because I am not so close to my father as of now, I feel that going to a medical professional will only hurt our relationship more and do not want to really share my struggles with him.

Do you guys have any advice?

I do want to help myself and go to a medical professional but how would you guys approach the issue on the family side?

Thanks,

Julie

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  • ptolemy
    ptolemy julie8243

    Posted

    I am very anti visiting doctors but a while back I was forced to. I started having bilateral pain and it got worse and worse. In the end I could not get out of bed. In my case I was given steroids and in less than twenty four hours I was back in the land of the living. Can you visit a doctor without your father knowing and explain the problem to the doctor? It is mad to carry on like you are if things are not improving. It does sound like it could be a chronic problem.

  • derek76
    derek76 julie8243

    Posted

    You should go to the neurology community of this site. Click on the circle in the top right before your name and type neurology

  • sarajo
    sarajo julie8243

    Posted

    Can I just ask -are you saying that your dad wont let you go to the doctors?

    My dad wont go the doctors if he has a cold /chest infection (unless its serious) but he doesnt object to me & my mum going to the doctors though

    why should going to a doctors hurt your relationship between you & your dad? its not upto him -even if youre not close to him if you feel you need to get an appointment then you do so

  • wayne1962
    wayne1962 julie8243

    Posted

    Julie - the docs are the ones who can advise you, and you need to understand what's happening asap. You are young and what you report is not normal. See the doc - don't tell dad.

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