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Currently I've been having a tough time. For the last 14 years my family has had lots and lots of dramas. I have tried to help, been on call 24/7 for their dramas and really put myself out. There's one person who seems to be at the route of all this. Now that it's calm ish though my mental health has really plummeted and I'm now under the care of the mental health team. I decided to tell my family this and the one person who is at the route of it burst into tears. Says it's not their fault. So of course I feel guilty. But I've sacrificed a lot for this person even my sanity and they still don't seem to be much happier. They just blame everybody else and won't except they may be the cause. they start crying and say it's all their fault so of course, I end up comforting them. It's so difficult. I opened up up to a trusted person and they were great. But now I'm feeling guilty that I don't deserve sympathy because i have lots to be grateful for. I feel like a bit of a fraud! It's like there's lots worse going on in the world so I should stop being so selfish and get on with it. I feel bad that I'm talking badly of this close family that I tried out of love to support for so long. I need to discover who I am, my identity. Is that selfish? My family are likely to turn on me if I stop helping them but I just can't deal with their dramas anymore. Any advice?!
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