Father inlaw may have prostate cancer

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So sorry its late just need some advice we think my father in law may have prostate cancer he is being sent for a biopsy on friday and more tests which in my eyes does not sound good he is in a lot of pain and im worried it may have advanced to his bones he has lost a lot of weight aswell my partner wont talk to me about it as he is a proud man but i found him sobbing yesterday in the kitchen and when i asked he told me not to worry im at a loss as to help my partner his mum and most of all my father in law xxx

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    I also need to point out he is only 64 i know that may not seem young but he used to be so full of life and vigor until a few months ago when this struck him.
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    Most times when people post on here, there may be suspected prostate cancer but there are no symptoms. Your father-in-law's condition sounds far worse as you say he has pain and weight loss. I fear you are right to anticipate that thedoctors will find that previously undetected cancer has spread. All you can do is wait for test results and see whether there are treatments being offered. You can only offer your support, which you are already doing. The more you stay calm and manage your own anxiety, the better for your partner and family. People are so individual in their attitudes to cancer, illness and mortality. Once you all have the facts and know what the doctors have found and are offering there will be plenty to research to find out about the probable prognosis for your father-in-law. Remember that even metastasised cancer is often very effectively treated these days. At present you are all reeling from this and are plagued by one of the worst situations: uncertainty. Be patient and let those around you turn to you when they are ready, there is nothing you can do apart from keeping yourself supported in order to be there for them as and when they want to talk. Well done for posting as it shows that you are willing to get information and moral support for yourself - a good model for your partner!

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    Hi my father had prostate cancer and best advice I can give is to not stress until you actually no weather it is prostate cancer or not. We were in the same position and everything worked out ok. He had surgery and after 6 months

    He can now live a normal life again. Hope this helps. Keep me updated and I can help with any further questions.

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      That is good advice. I remember 7 years ago when I was told that I had prostate cancer, I put my self in their hands and they know what they are doing, trust them and don't fight them. Within 2 weeks they had carried out a biopsy, a CT scan and then a bone scan. I was told that the tests had found an advanced cancer and it had escaped into the bones . I was told not to worry as the medication I wa son, Hormone Therapy with Zaladox, this would affect the cancer wherever it may be.  My PSA is now at 0.07 and I trust them to look after me.

      Best wishes

      Neil

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