Fear of death
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Hi, I posted something similar to this in the depression category, but I thought it'd be best to post it here as my GP told me it involved obsessive thoughts.
My obsessive thoughts center around death, the (in my personal belief) lack of an afterlife and the impending death of my parents. They mess me up so badly, to the point I won't eat, can't sleep - I pretty much spend my time thinking about death and it's inevitability and it's ruining my life. I'm anxious about it.
My parents are aware and so are one or two friends, and I've been given the spiel about "don't worry about death and enjoy life" or "they've lived a good life" in reference to my parents, but I simply can't accept it. I know I have to, but when I try to I break down - I can't work, I can't do anything. I can't help but feel everything is pointless in the face of inevitable death. Why do anything if I'm just going to die and not remember it? Why can other people go on enjoying their lives when all I can do is imagine everyone I meet rotting in the ground?
I've been put on 20MG of Citalopram and have been given 2MG of Diazepram (The diazepram was to calm me and help me sleep - which it did not do.) I've only been on the Citalopram a day, and I know it takes a while to take effect, but I literally don't think I can live like this - I don't want to die, honestly, but on the flip side I think to myself "if I won't remember life anyway why not die now?" And to me that reasoning makes sense. At least then i won't have to live through the deaths of those around me, trying to accept that they're just gone and the body I once identified as them is rotting away.
My GP had initially suggested breathing exercises and mindfullness, but after a two weeks we realized they weren't helping, thus the medication. Any help overcoming this would be massively appreciated. The scariest thing is that i don't think anyone can alleviate these fears, because the reality is that death is going to happen around me and to me. And knowing that that's true is really messing me up.
Thanks
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paul76608 cjstevenson
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niccik cjstevenson
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I have lots of mosdules and books on self help cbt. I will send you links. They really help. And if you put in the work you will get a lot out of it. 2 weeks is probably not long enough to try mindfullness. It takes will power and strength and even i wasnt able to succeed with this as much as id liked during my 9 weeks of CBT. Stick at it... Need more advise or just a chat let me know ... My discussion is 'Obsessive Compulsive Thoughts' if your interested. I too have suffered from fear of death. I still do but i think i grew out of a lot of the fear with age. xxx
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