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Fear of going out alone

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shameem74
shameem74

Whenever I have to go to the shop I fear doing just that because there's no one there wen I get there so I feel anxious. I can go out and meet someone but fear going out on my own when I have to do things on my own. Its like im not capable and iverthink8ng this issue. I dont want to get stuck in th8s cycle as I know I havevto 0ush mysrlf to do this on my own. For goodness sake I went to the beauticians on my own last week so why have these thoughts kicked in. I know theres no danger out there. Now I'm going to have to challenge myself and get out there today and make it to the shops just to get some bananas regardless of how bad the weather is I think I've just lost trust in the outside world that's all it is. I suppose I need that confidence back.

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  • pauline59158
    pauline59158 shameem74

    Posted

    I've had those issues, you have to force yourself to do these things. The fear eventually will be overcome. Tell yourself they are not real and can't possibly harm you. It will make you stronger in the end and help  you to cope.

    Regards

    Pauline

     

  • anthony10903
    anthony10903 shameem74

    Posted

    I used to have stronger anxiety in public but I had alot of success by doing relaxation breathing exercises.If you do them especially the breathing when you feel ok or laying in bed you will condition youir mind to feel at ease.When you are about to go out do these just before and when you are out you can remember to take belly breaths once and awhile .No one will notice and it will send message to brain that you are in  safe place.after awhile as you take small risk of going out alone and trying this technique the mind will realize since nothing bad has happened that the fears will subside.It will become manageable.Using relxation breathing I went from isolating myself from public panic attacks to giving sessions in front of groups.I am so happy.You can do this.
    • shameem74
      shameem74 anthony10903

      Posted

      how can i cope with staying in alone? My brain goes blank and i cant think of things to do.  I start panicking when i stay inalone like i am going to get a phonecall to say somat has happened to my mum and i am alone. This stems from an electricity outage we had a few weeks ago and i was at home but with bro and mum.  The music in a bowling alley went loud and i panicked
    • shameem74
      shameem74

      Posted

      my memory is bad and i cant remember todo the relaxtion techniques that i did the previous day. I will push myself to stay indoors alone to get to grips with this illness
    • anthony10903
      anthony10903 shameem74

      Posted

      I understand .I had to put post it notes on my coffee table .I had to keep reminding myself.My mind wanders like crazy.I went to soup kitchen to help in kitchen..A couple months later they made me the cook.Notes all over the kitchen.I never settled into that job.I remember being at home and trying not to think I had left the stove on.I was actually going to go down and look in window to check if stove light was on(at 3 in the morning).I had to quit.So I know what it feels like .really I do ,A few years later I went back to do dishes again.They asked me to cook but I said no .What I am saying is just take small, acceptable risks at your speed.Alot of people dont understand but to us it is very real. please feel safe and take care
    • shameem74
      shameem74 anthony10903

      Posted

      I just forget things like if someone has told me something. I don't forget if I have left anything on. I am a kinaesthetic learner so i learn and remember things by touch. If i write it down then I remember. it's like learning from the beginning from childhood
    • shameem74
      shameem74 anthony10903

      Posted

      I have been going out more but I have to do this more alone to cope with it.
  • lisalisa67
    lisalisa67 shameem74

    Posted

    This is almost everyone who has a panic disorder. Its part of it.
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