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Fear of loosing my child

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worry56583
worry56583

hi there i feel really silly talking about this but i need someone to talk to...I have this overwelming fear of my partner and his family taking over the life i live with my child..i fear that my child will run to my partner family later in life and just leave me. Im so sorry and feel that who ever reads this then they going to think im stupid or something but this is really destroyeng me. My baby is now 9 months and im so scared that his gradma and grandad will just say things to him ..im a damm good mother ..i dont drink ..smoke or take drugs..this is no offence to anyone by the way but i dont know ....please someone help me...do i suffer from something i dont know about? Xx

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  • linda83143l
    linda83143l worry56583

    Posted

    You could be suffering from post natal depression.

    Try and talk to your Dr and explain how you feel.

    Its a horrible place to be, but no one can take your baby. Your baby knows you by sight and also by smell. Your baby is loved, cared for you are doing everything you can and should be so don't worry.

    I am speaking the truth.

    I know its hard but you will get there.

    With love, Linda xx

    • worry56583
      worry56583 linda83143l

      Posted

      Thank you for your reply ..im just so scared . I love my baby so much. This time last year i lost my brother from suicide and my baby got me through this . I will talk to my doctor and thank you so much . I am new to this group and already love it as i got a quick response xx
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG worry56583

      Posted

      This is early on Thursday morning. You are doing just the right thing. Phone as soon as the surgery is open and make the appointment. Then tell us that you have your appointment. I am sure Linda will be so pleased. I certainly will be. I am sure Linda would love to hear more of your beautiful baby too. 

      We are rooting for you. You are being so brave, a mum your baby can be proud of.

    • worry56583
      worry56583 georgeGG

      Posted

      Thank you gergeGG. I have been reading of post natal depression. The only thing i dont want is counselling. I have had this in the past and find its not been helpful. I just hope he doesn't suggest this to me xx
    • georgeGG
      georgeGG worry56583

      Posted

      Dear worry, I hope so but I will tell you part of my story.

      Decades ago I was in deep trouble with inappropriate and prolonged treatment from a specialist who had not learned the medical principle "If it is not doing any good stop doing it." I was taking four pills n times daily" each intended to counter the ill effects of the pill earlier in the queue. Eventally I was refered to the psychiatry department where none other than the Professor attended to me. Of the doctors concerned in my failing treatment he was the only one who seemed to have any medical common sense. He wrote to the first consultant begging him to stop the failing treatment. 

      So much depends on the man/woman who happens to be a physician. Please continue to be brave. I am sure you will deal with the situation as it unfolds, and you worries will turn out to be like early morning vapours - gone as soon as the sun is up.

  • deirdre._03652
    deirdre._03652 worry56583

    Posted

    Hi worry, oh bless you xx. You beloved baby son will never ever love any one as much as he loves you..... a baby thrives on it's mother's love, hugs, kisses and cuddles and you are the person who will always do these the best... enjoy this very special time...I do agree with the ladybefore that you may have post natal depression, and for you own peace. Of mind and your beloved little one ( he wants his mummy to be the happiest person in the world ) you should have a word with you GP..... enjoy this wonderful time, I have four children, all adults now, I wish you. Peace of mind and joy... sincere regards Deirdre xxx
    • worry56583
      worry56583 deirdre._03652

      Posted

      thank you Deidre i never thought of post natal depression to be honest and i thank you for your support. Will get in touch with my gp althought he is not a simpathetic doctor but i will make an appointment xx
    • deirdre._03652
      deirdre._03652 worry56583

      Posted

      Hi, I am so glad, please let us know how you are doing, we allreally do care on this forum, most of us have been there... chinup and enjoy your little one.. sincere regards to you, Deirdre xx
    • Aspinan
      Aspinan worry56583

      Posted

      Hi, if you feel your Dr has not been sympathetic to your need then it might be worth speaking to your midwife or the practice nurse.

      You deserve the very best!

      N 

  • elizabeth20203
    elizabeth20203 worry56583

    Posted

    Hello, I do agree with others that this could be post natal depression. Please see your GP and talk to your health visitor too. Your baby knows who it's mother is they sense and know your smell. Post natal depression causes all sorts of thoughts, your hormones are all over the place. I have had post natal depression twice and you will eventually come out the other side, but you do need support. The suicide of your brother as added to your depression, it's a terrible thing to go through. My husband and nephew commited suicide so again i can understand how this is for you. You have had so many changes in just a short time no wonder you are struggling. Please keep with this forum it's a great support. You can pm me if you want to. Hugs to you.

    Elizabeth.

    • worry56583
      worry56583 elizabeth20203

      Posted

      Hi Elizabeth thanknyou for your reply. I have read about the symptoms of post natal and i can only find a few things in common that i have . I not been to docs yet as i couldnt get an appointment . I really dont know were to start . Xx
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