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Feel like a burden and a liability

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Pinkie1990
Pinkie1990

I've been suffering from migraines for 20 years. These have gradually increased in number to an average of 20 a month. My family are always really sympathetic but, of course, have to get on with their own lives. I feel like a burden, like I'm holding them back and sucking the joy out of family occasions. I'm off sick, yet again, from work and wondering if I am becoming unemployable. Do others feel like this? How do you escape this 'pity party'?

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  • YorkshireLass1
    YorkshireLass1 Pinkie1990

    Posted

    Hi Pinkie

    I have been suffering for 40 years since I was 9, get an average of about 12 a month.  To be honest you and your family have to learn to live with it, or I find that is certainly true in my case.  Huge amount of GPs and consultants have tried to sort me out over the years, but none have succeeded and I have resigned myself to a life with them.  Take the tablets as and when necessary and have a good cry, that always helps smile  Sorry if I've made you more miserable than you were but that is my story, I have to be realistic and truthful.

    Hope you find some help, it's an awful thing to have xx

  • Byrdie
    Byrdie Pinkie1990

    Posted

    I don't have an answer but can share I feel similar. It is hard because we look fine on outside, overall. I try to really do alot of things, activities etc when well so they can see it's not a personality problem etc. I try to not whine haha when I am unwell- I stay quiet then family knows it's happening migraine.

    I hate missing work and I work for myself! I have an office and clients and it really stinks to cancel my weeks, loose money etc. Hate it. I wish I knew how to manage better but I apologize for any inconvenience and say I am off because it's medically necessary.

    As usual, I say Don't Quit on yourself. Try to do what you're able to do for yourself, truly try so family sees you're attempting to be as independent as possible.

    All the best to you.

  • krisitn20713
    krisitn20713 Pinkie1990

    Posted

    Hi Pinkie-

    Hang in there. I was terribly ill 2 years ago and have regained most of my function. (knock on wood!) The only lingering effect so far is an ability to place names with faces, it upset me teriibly at first and now I just look at it as a puzzle. It happened yesterday where I met someone that recognized me, but I couldn't recall where I knew her from. I used to panic and feel awful but now I've learned to relax and eventually I may remember what context or part of my life I knew them from. The feeling is like trying to read  a book without the table of contents!! Just another weird symptom life experience from these terrible HM's. It was a long hard fight back to normal..or my new normal...radical and drastic lifestyle changes. I have an earlier post on what I've done so far that I will repost. Sending you healing thoughts. ox

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