Feeling awful, not wanting to be alone, any advice appreciated

Do u hav family close by to visit?

Hav u tried deep breathing technique and positive thoughts. I struggle with this cos I'm very much a need my senses to be constantly occupied IE telly, internet or music. If I don't use these I get feelings of loneliness and despair.

Phil

Hello Jenny,

How are you feeling today?

I'm so sorry about your suffering Anxiety really sucks. When it hits you hard it takes over so much of your mind that you begin to feel you're going crazy or there is something wrong with you but always keep in mind that it's just the anxiety making you feel this way. Sometimes it comes when everything seems to be going okay and other times, there are moments like you're experiencing where certain things trigger it.

I would suggest having as much structure and routine in your day as possible. Don't stay in bed. If you need time off work because you're struggling to cope, take it.

Don't keep everything to yourself, that's also important. Shutting off from the world to recharge is one thing but completely remicibf yourself from the outside world will only make things harder I'm afraid. I speak from experience. So please, if you don't have someone to talk to or are struggling to talk to someone, jump on this forum and talk to us. We've all been through similar things and we all help look out for one another.

Don't drink coffee and tea after 3pm. Try some meditation (download the Smiling Mind app it's free) and work through that daily or whenever you start to feel anxious. This will give you more control of your thoughts and emotions. Pick up a hobby. Play an instrument. Paint. Create. Keep all your feelings and experiences in a little diary too.

It's also the most important to have a good medical/professional team working with you.

Make sure you have a really good GP who cares about you and listens. He will ensure you have the right mental halts plan best suited to you. Try different sorts of therapies until you're fully content all your needs and emotions are being met and dealt with correctly. I'm not too educated with the difference of the types of counselling, but I was doing CBT for the most amount of time but with little results. Look into some Psychodynamic Therapies.

It sounds like your issues (if we'll call them that) are deep seeded into your unconsciousness. Things you learnt as a child may be the reason for this.

I highly recommend you read, 'Reinventing Your Life'.

Knowledge is key. But you need a good medical team. Support from friends and family (us too).

Medication isn't always the answer, that will depend on you and your dr to discuss. But just know that medicine has come very far and gone are the days where we are given meds that have an impact in our future or even become addictive.

There is so much help out there. It's about knowing where to look and finding the right help for you.

Most of the time, it will get worse before it gets better but we need the rain and thunder to create all the beautiful flowers

And when the going gets tough, JUST KEEP SWIMMING 🐠💙

if you are not opposed to medicine that would be the quick fix way out of all this. It would quiet down the anxiety.

otherwise you need to be your own best friend in all this. Keep very busy. Maybe invite family or friends over for a bit, make dinner..etc.. or visit them.

listen to calming mediations or healing meditatiin before bed. Even an audiobook on anxiety coping skills of some sort. Or deep breathing exercises off of utube. Maybe that too can help.

i actually have a dog now. I adopted him four years ago. A fantastic comfort.