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Feeling defeated

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kelsey0817
kelsey0817

After a horrid summer of dizziness and vertigo, I went almost 4 weeks feeling almost completely normal! Until Saturday night. I was so excited because my best friend just got engaged and she and her fiancee were coming over for dinner and we were going to wedding plan. But 2 hours before they were going to come over the vertigo hit. Even talk ing meclizine didn't help this attack, it was the worst one I think I've had in a long time. I'm just feeling so defeated because I thought the worst was over since I usually don't have any problems this late in the year. My daughter is 10 months old and I just want to be able to be a good mom and I feel like I can't be with this disease. My husband and I want to start trying for a second baby next year but I'm afraid I won't be able to handle being pregnant again and having 2 kids. I'm only 25 and I don't want this disease to run my life but I also want to be realistic. I guess this was just a vent because I'm feeling so down on myself and no one else really understands what it's like to live with this.

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  • david4242
    david4242 kelsey0817

    Posted

    Kelsey,

    There are 7 million people suffering from MD in the U.S.A. just like you and me.  We at this site are here to support you in any possible way. Try to keep up the best you can with the postings because there might be a suggestion which just might help you lessen the number or severity of the episodes.  You're right, no one else can understand what we go through except us, so we stand must together.

  • Pupper
    Pupper kelsey0817

    Posted

    It's important when you say you've had an attack, to briefly say what that means for you.  Because everyone has a different idea of what an "attack" is.  Where you still able to function ("floaty" "uneasy"wink?  Or bedridden with the spins?  

    Anyway, it sounds like the attack you mention preceded a social event.  Do social events cause you stress?  That can lead to an attack.   It often does for me.  

    I can only speak for myself.  I have MD, and if I was a woman I would not have a second child.  Unless I had a lot of family support.   

    I guess it depends on severity/frequency of your MD.  And how badly you want another child.  

    I'm very sorry.  This is one messed up disease.  

    • kelsey0817
      kelsey0817 Pupper

      Posted

      I was bedridden for 12 hours. This particular attack preceded a social event, but all summer they have come out of nowhere. I know that stress is a trigger for me but I wasn't stressed or anxious, I was just excited because I'm a stay at home mom and have hardly any social interaction with adults rolleyes

      Thankfully my family lives less than 10 minutes away and is extremely supportive. I definitely couldn't have handled this without them! Before this summer I would only get vertigo maybe twice a year, so it was very manageable.

    • Pupper
      Pupper kelsey0817

      Posted

      Understood.  If family support is operative, I approve the conception of additional child. Proceed with intercourse.  
    • JMJ
      JMJ Pupper

      Posted

      LOL!!   I think laughter is very good for MD and all that ails us!  ;-)
  • JMJ
    JMJ kelsey0817

    Posted

    Dear Kelsey,

    You're in the right place.  I don't think there's a person here who hasn't felt that sense of defeat and helplessness.  The unpredictable nature of MD attacks is so frustrating.  In my life, half of my friends understood all of the last minute cancellations, the other half were totally annoyed.  

    I hope you'll stick around for the support and the information that's here for you. (It's even free!)

    Just know that we totally get it.  I wish you all the best!!

    J-

     

    • kelsey0817
      kelsey0817 JMJ

      Posted

      Thank you! Its great to have found a group that can support each other because we all know how much this sucks lol.
  • jackie72283
    jackie72283 kelsey0817

    Posted

    Might be worth going to a physiotherapist. It sorted out my vertigo.
    • kelsey0817
      kelsey0817 jackie72283

      Posted

      I have actually never heard of a physiotherapist, what do they do?
  • mistibluey
    mistibluey kelsey0817

    Posted

    All my sympathy for that feeling of defeat. I do hope you are feeling a bit better now.

     

    It does sound as if stress might be a trigger for you. I know weddings can be exciting and enjoyable,  but there is a lot of stress involved in the planning and it changes relationships as well. Your best friend getting married is a change for you as well as for her. Just a thought.

     

    • kelsey0817
      kelsey0817 mistibluey

      Posted

      So far I have felt better! I'm just trying to be grateful for every day that I feel good now.

      Since it's not my wedding it will be much less stress than when I planned my own wink and it will get definitely change things for her, probably not so much for me. Stress is definitely a trigger for me but in this case I wasn't stressed, just excited to see them. I'm still not totally sure what brought that episode on rolleyes

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