Feeling desperate

Hi SaraNashville

We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologies for contacting you directly. But if you are having such thoughts then please note that you are not alone in this, and there are people out there that can help.

If you are having these suicidal thoughts then we strongly recommend you speak to someone who may be able to help. The Samaritans offer a safe space where you can talk openly about what you are going through. They can help you explore your options, understand your problems better, or just be there to listen.

Their contact details are on our patient information leaflet here: https://patient.info/health/dealing-with-suicidal-thoughts, which also offers lots of other advice on how you can access the help you may need.

If you are having such thoughts then please do reach out to the team at the Samaritans (or the other people detailed in our leaflet) who will understand what you're going through and will be able to help.

Kindest regards

Patient

I’ve been trough the same please believe me when I say you can get through this....u will find better cos u deserve better...I know you can’t see this right now but things will get better....you will find someone else who will love you unconditionally....you have to go through a difficult time learning to live without him....it’s tough....but you are strong and you will get thorough this....even money wise don’t be scared of the hardships....try and focus on finding a solution to your finances...is there any social benefits you can receive?....can you find a better paid job....don’t try and suicide any more...the pain is crippling but believe me it will pass....Belive in yourself and know your worth....

SarahNashville I’m not going to say I can imagine how you feel because...well, I KNOW how you feel and it’s the damned hardest thing in the world. My former husband went overseas for “two weeks”. And never came back. No communication, no apology, no explanation. The struggle is real. Suddenly half of you is missing. Suddenly you have double the burdens to shoulder. Suddenly life is hard to live and every waking moment is a fresh dreadful nightmare. You stumble around in the pain and darkness and it feels as though it will never end. I once read somewhere that there is no pain that enough time cannot heal, but for me time took on two dimensions - the fast speeding by of my life without him in it, and the slow, staggering days that stalked me. I can only offer you comfort in my heart and say that I now know why he was no good for me and honestly no good for anyone else either. You sound like such a good and kind person, so innocent and unsuspecting. Kudos to you, girl. Your star will shine brightly again one day - just give it time, as hard as that may seem. Keep seeking comfort and help here, and if at all possible try to talk your way through this with a trained therapist. Meditate. Pray. Cry. Talk. Do whatever you can to get through each day. Right now it is impossible to believe, but THIS TOO SHALL PASS. Yes, it definitely will. And you’ll be stronger and happier for it in ways that seem unimaginable.

Please don't attempt suicide again, Sara. You've been through a lot, I can sure see that. But suicide is NEVER a good solution. Eventually, you'll make it through these issues-I know it doesn't seem like that right now, but you will make it. I have been there and made it through, believe me.

Right now you need to focus on YOU and try and address the Depression. Hopefully you have access to therapy and medication. If you EVER feel so low as to try suicide again, IMMEDIATELY have someone enter you into hospital. Don't play around with those symptoms, they are always to be taken very seriously.

I'm 64 and until the last year had never spent a night in hospital in my life, even though I suffered from clinical depression and Anxiety. I visited other people in hospital. To make a long story short, my Mother and only brother died 2 days apart in 2017 from different reasons. Then my wife got sick and went into hospital for a week. Then my only living relative-an estranged sister-tied me up in Probate Court related to my Mom's estate. Sis is a sociopath and loves to rack folks over the coals in Court. At any rate, it all came to a head 6 months ago and I essentially had a breakdown and had no wish to live. My Psychiatrist at the clinic I visited knew I was beyond rational thinking and she ORDERED me admitted to hospital on suicide watch. My wife took me over there and had them admit me, my blood pressure had spiked and I hadn't eaten in a couple of days and was low on fluids.

It turned out to be a GREAT week, I learned coping skills for Anxiety, got my vitals back into normal, my medication (for depression) was adjusted (it had lost vitality after 25 years on the same dosage). That week was a tonic for me and I came out feeling MUCH better and no longer thinking about taking my life. My point being, things can change for the better so very rapidly-so suicide could deprive you of your recovery and a vibrant new life.

Take my advice, if you EVER feel that desire again have yourself admitted to hospital. You won't be the first and you won't be the last and it is ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY for your recovery. God bless and you take care of yourself!

Hi Sara pm me if you want. You can talk to me privately then.

What happened to you really sounds terrible. I hope you feel better soon. But you have to be strong and dont let this overcome you. You have done nothing wrong and you are not at fault. There is a lot more to life. Get better soon, have some personal time and get yourself back together...It wont happen overnight, but take it easy, one day at a time