Feeling emotional because of jealousy.
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Hello All,
After trying to find help from different places. I am giving this a try.
I have suffered with four miscarriages. They have mentally torn me apart. I am on medication for this and am on a waiting list for talking therapy (also looking into private to speed the process). In addition i have Aspergers and Generalised anxiety disorder.
My sister, who i have never been massively close to, is pregnant and due next month. I have never seen her since last year because we had an argument over text message. When i went through my miscarriages, she never supported me and she emphasised in the text messages that i was in the wrong for not supporting her with the pregnancy. I know this is hurting my parents, especially mam. My sister never wanted children, and she became pregnant not long after finding out her partner had been unfaithful towards her. My ex and I tried for a baby and lost on the four occasions.
When we have fell out in the past, I have always been the one to apologise first. But i feel this time she needs to understand me more and be the sister i need. she is 29 and i am 26. I recently moved back home since becoming single because i needed support and company.
I just do not know what to do and it is causing me so much stress and anxiety.
Thank you,
Jess
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I am so sorry you’re going through this. I’m sure it hurts a lot. And I’m sure it hurts that your sister is not the sister that you need right now. But we can’t make someone become the person that they should be.
The main thing right now is that you need to find peace of mind. You need to take care of yourself and put yourself first. Not in a selfish way but in a way that makes you feel better and more peaceful and stronger.
And one of the ways you do that is by letting go. At least for right now. release the hurt that you feel your sister is causing and forgive her. You don’t have to forgive her verbally but in your heart and in your mind release all of that and you will feel a sense of relief. many counselors will tell their patients to say out loud to themselves " I release all of my hurt, anxiety, and stress. I forgive my sister for not being the sister that I need right now. for whatever reason. I let it go! I let it go! "when I do this I hold my hands and my arms up and release it all.if you have to say this 10 times a day that’s fine.
Even if you deserve more from her, she may not be able to give it right now for whatever reason. So that’s why if you keep thinking about this it will just make you feel miserable all the time and you don’t deserve that! also it’s not going to do you a bit of good to feel anxious about this. It’s only going to hurt you.
there May come a day when she does come around and when she does, welcome her with open arms. Life is too short to spend in resentment, anger, jealousy, etc. we need to make the best of our own lives.
its Great that you are going to get some counseling. Just open up like you did on here and talk about it all. I was just sharing with you something that I found to be very helpful. Hope you feel better soon. You deserve to feel at peace and that can happen by forgiving and letting go.