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Feeling hurt, shame, and broken

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jas33724
jas33724

First I have breast cancer stage IV I've been fighting for 10yrs. With that being said I've struggled

With the thought of being alone because my cancer is not curable and I'll fight this for the rest of my

life. So I decide to take a friend up on his offer and join him in PR for my birthday. Well long story

short I haven't been with anyone for 2yrs and he was that person. So Monday I got a boil that hurt so

bad I decided to go see my ob/gyn and she tells me it appears to be herpes!!!

I am so devastated and upset first at myself for not protecting myself and then at him IF indeed he is

the carrier for not telling me. I don't have the results but I'm a realist so I'm trying to

accept this before the news is delivered. To add insult to injury an high school friend has

reconnected with me and we've been talking and he's made plans to visit but of course I didn't know

any of this!!! PLEASE PLEASE if you can I need some advice on how to handle and cope if this is

my diagnosis!!! Scared and confused and HURT!!!

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  • lauren74052
    lauren74052

    Posted

    I am so sorry to hear about your struggle with cancer . Stay strong ! Also I am sorry to hear about ur herpes. Did the doctor swab test of just visually diagnose ? Because they should always test it to be sure . Anyway ... If it is herpes then know that u are not alone and many many people have it ... Probably friends and family and people you interact with every day. This new guy may even have it ! Who knows. Take time to feel down and deal with and pick yourself back up and know that it's just cold sores !! Same class as chicken pox.

    Focus on staying healthy and happy this should in no way affect ur life . Xxx you also may never get another outbreak again

  • jas33724
    jas33724

    Posted

    This afternoon I was told it was positive!!! I believe I've cried until I can't cry anymore!! I'm in disbelief but I'm trying very hard to come to terms with this. I thank you for taking the time to reply to me and give me some encouragement Lord knows I need it right now!! And on top of that received a call from my onocologist that my scan showed a new spot!!! Today has not been the best day. I'm going to keep reading all the other post everyday for information and encouragement!!! Thank you so much again and if there's anything else you recommend I need to do that will help me get thru this please feel free to share!!
  • lauren74052
    lauren74052

    Posted

    We'll let me just tell you my experience . I caught hsv2 when I was 19 or 20 ... And I only had about 4 partners and I was in SHOCK ! I cried ... Felt like I wanted to die .. I was the popular girl in a band ! It totally sucked! But I lived with two girls who knew something was up and said hey ... We have herpes too ! This saved my life . To know how common it was ! Both people I loved with had it but obviously never said anything until they knew I also had it .

    This is a cold sore on your privates . End of. That is all the attention it deserves . Don't let yourself waste time worrying about something so trivial !!!

    I have had it in my system 10 years. I am married and a respected person in the community . I couldn't give a shit that I have herpes in fact it's not even worth my worry ! Xxxx

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