Feeling lost and alone.

Hi Toni

It is really hard for someone who isnt going through what you are going through to understand so it is better to come to a forum like this where people can understand and give better advice,on the posative side you seem to have a good boyfriend but unfortunatley if you continue you will loose him as they get exhausted and think either its drams or why cant you just snap out of it ahhh!! if it was that simple we could they only way out is being honest with your self as to what really gets you or triggers you into this ,im same and i am starting to push my husband away which is making thigs worse as that is my deep worry loosing him would be devistating,the only way out is adressing the problem by talking to someone who has been there and planning posative energy forward

Two things you could try. And I am a therapist, thas works for a lot of my private clients.The cheapest easiest thing to try is a high dose of vitamin B every day, it would take about a month to see if it works. The second thing - which requires a lot of work from you - is to see a therapist and get COGNITIVE BEHAVIOURAL THERAPY. I can tell from what you said in your post that this would help you a lot. It isnt cheap, but nothing worth having is. You do need to go and see someone you can trust and feel comfortable with. You might be lucky and be offered it in a group on a cheaper or free basis but it is much better when it is 1 2 1. I don't see much if any value in the group sessions other than that they can tick a box saying they did something. And instead of sitting there fretting research online all about anxiety and depression. Become more powerful, knowledge is power. If you live in the UK you can phone NO PANIC, they have a free helpful which is staffed by volunteers who take turns taking the calls - I used to supervise and train them - some are better than others but it might just help you through a sticky patch and it does not cost anything and is instant. Find their website online. Good luck.

Hi toni

see coming here you have some good advice from Carmel which is what i mentioned being with people who understand and can give helpful comments from there own experience or professional help from the right place .as for doctors it depends on who you get ,when i went he said i only have 10 mins so can you explain ,it was devistating to me as i felt a inconveniece imediatly and couldnt wait to get out ,I did eventually go the hospital and got a amaizing specialist who spent two hours with me never rushed ,so it was a start of being heard ,they gave me a useful number to ring when things got back and the guy on the other end was so suportive and undersatanding he stayed on phone until my panic attack went ,so if you dont get right advice at first keep trying until you do and stay posative as much as you can

Thank you all for your help

Hi Tony, can fully sympathise with what you're going through. I'm dealing with past abuse through counselling, it really does help to talk things through, you probably don't think it will but a good counsellor can really help you understand the emotions and pain you're feeling.

My last counselling session I was told something that really hit home, I'm almost 32 and should treat it as if I'm leaving a cult, finally breaking free from years of mind control, it will take time but the brain is malleable and you can turn things around. 

Things won't make you feel better at first but I treat depression treatment like I would antibiotics, just over a longer timeframe, you won't get the benefit on the first day of antibiotics, you have to stick to the course, even after symtpoms leave as well.

Hi I'm diane I suffer from depression I know how u feel