Feeling lost and lonely
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I've battled depression and anxiety for most of my life..im 41 now. The past 3 months or so has been the worst ever. As many can probably relate to a life event can trigger..myself and my girlfriend were together for 3 years. It wasn't always easy I admit but I love her to bits and we got through the bad times which to be honest were nothing to do with us but other stuff in her life mainly. She has had a nightmare past with ex partners treating her like s**t and she has been depressed a lot during our relationship because of this..i know it's not a good mix two people who suffer with depression being together but it did work I can't explain it....unfortunately she had a miscarriage 3 months ago and she has pushed me away ever since..i tried to be there for her but she just went into her shell and wanted to deal with it alone. I felt empty after what happened and and put all my energy into being there but she has said she wants to be on her own now and my heart is broken. I honestly can't see a way forward
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Adldiane Anthony0100
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Anthony I am so sorry that you lost your baby and that your girlfriend has pulled away. Did she physically move out? I am sure her pain is deep over the miscarriage and it has nothing to do with you. Maybe now you can grieve and allow her space to grieve the loss her way. I had a miscarriage in February before I got pregnant with my first child and we were working with my OBGYN to get pregnant and it really hurt even today if I think about it it still hurts. Then God gave us a beautiful baby boy. I can't pretend to be all wise we all have to grieve if we don't it will come out in another way probably sideways in unpredictable behavior. We are here for you and we do care. Diane
Anthony0100 Adldiane
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Hi Diane. I've moved back to my mum's house which is adding to my depression feel like I'm going backwards in life.
Sorry to hear you went through the same hope you're on the mend now...
wayne1962 Anthony0100
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Hi Anthony - so sorry to read of what has happened in your life and the losses you are dealing with. I wonder whether you and your girlfriend has had any counselling for the loss of the baby? Have you had medications or counselling at any time in the past for your depression? Perhaps giving her some space might be a wise move right now - she will need to figure out a way to deal with all that has happened. Meanwhile, you could seek assistance for your own situation. It's a tough one.
Anthony0100 wayne1962
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Hi Wayne thanks for your response. I'd love us to see a counsellor together about what has happened with the miscarriage and other things but she's not the type who would want to do that unfortunately.
I've been on Propanelol for around 2 months now and Citalapram for the past month. I get mixed effects from the propanelol to be honest. I do get really bad anxiety and panic attacks and sometimes it does help. To be honest I feel worse since i started the citalapram but my doctor said it can happen that way. I've been on sertraline and fluoxetine in the past.