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Been separated 8weeks now wife came away with me last week thought we was getting somewhere I'm hurting real bad tried suciside and was found in time on antidepressants but things getting worse now at in car ready to end it in a heap 

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    No, no and no.

    That it's not a solution. You are much stronger than you think. You are much better that that. We are all fighters here. 

    I know it's hard, I am struggling too but I will never give up. I want you to do the same. You can do it.  We all can. Better days will come for all of us. 

    Be strong.  My thoughts are with you I know you can do it. Lxx

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    Nothing left she's broken me I used to be strong but now nothing x

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      I know how you are feeling. 

      This is what this awful disease does to us.

      We are strong, confident, competent, happy people and it takes everything from us, it doesn't leave us with anything. 

      It takes even the hope. It's an awful thing to experience. 

      But we are stronger than the majority of people, the strongest people are the ones who are experiencing depression, we need to fight every minute to be alive. We are survivors, yes I'm just surviving now. Much love x

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    Chris don't do it for your wife. Think about your kids if you have any.. Think about your family... Your parents etc. Chris nothing in life is worth k***ing yourself. You can get through this. It might feel horrible for your relationship to be ending. But no pain last forever. Time will heal. You will find someone else to be happy with. Don't worry I don't know the circumstances or if you love her or she does you.. But if you've both tried and it's not working out. You might need some time away from each other. To clear your mind. Nothing is worth doing it. Be strong I understand how you feel I've been on the brink many times too. I got saved too twice. Please don't do it. Right now you feel this way but if you let it pass those thoughts will too and you will reflect on this and think, "I wouldn't be here I'm glad I didn't do it." You see when we're depressed and we have this thoughts, this urge to end it all. We should think this moment will pass. I will regret it if I do it. You're not alone I feel like you too.🙏I hope you get better. Let time heal the pain, sorrow. You are a strong man. The depression makes us sad and vulnerable. Please get help. Have you tried marriage counseling? Is there a way you both can still work it out?If there's no way I'm sorry. I wish it would work just so you could be happy and not feel this way. Please.don't do it.

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    Chris, yes you are hurting right now. Yes it must seem like your world has already ended. But it hasn't. Not really. It is only natural to feel a surge of bewildering emotions when something like this happens. But you will get past it. You need time Chris. I don't know how much time, but eventually you will get to a point where it doesn't hurt so much anymore. You won't even notice it happening. But it will. You won't believe that right now, but you need to trust that it will happen.

    Remember, you were your own person before your wife came into your life. You got used to her being there I know. Things right now will feel alien to you because she's not there. But you are still you. Just like you were you before! And you will be you again. (have I said you enough!?). Hold onto that Chris. Be kind to yourself. Cry, scream, shout all you want. Get the emotions out. But don't give in. Make sure you see friends (or family) at least once a week right now. You might not feel like it, but you need to remind yourself that you are an individual with your own life. Keep doing the things you enjoy. Maybe you can't do them all right now but don't hide away and give in to the depression. Because it's that which is clouding your thinking right now. And it is temporary.

    Acknowledge your hurt by all means Chris, but don't let it swamp you. Fight for the you that was, the you that is, and the future you.

    Take care xx

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