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Feeling pretty crook today girls

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MrsMerm
MrsMerm

cry what I find the most frustrating thing about this menop thing is the uncertainty about where you are in your cycle, no period, I keep counting the dates back to when I last had one two months ago so that I can account for how awful I am feeling. I seem to just feel awful "willy nilly" sad

It's horrendous, I missed important appointments today because I feel exhausted (for no real reason), I feel depressed, my body aches all over. And before all this started atleast I would know how long it was going to last, usually  5 to 7 days before.

Sorry for being so negative but I just want to rest and that makes me feel guilty. It takes me all my time to do the hoousework rolleyes

Well hope your all well and on your UP DAYS...................................... 

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  • Tazchurch
    Tazchurch MrsMerm

    Posted

    Hey your allowed to be negative and do not feel over guilty about resting. I've got a notice on the front door saying Please do not disturb the dust it is there for research purposes!

    Big hugs

    Taz xxx

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm Tazchurch

      Posted

      thats hilarious, thanks for making me smil Tazzy wink
    • maria73432
      maria73432 Tazchurch

      Posted

      Thanks for the laugh!! I really needed that.....THAT is truly hilarious....
    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm maria73432

      Posted

      Sorry Maria,

                           I wasn't ignoring you but managed to get off to sleep, however, been awake since 3 am now. thank goodness I'm not at work tommorrow rolleyes

      Been thinking about getting melatonin to help me sleep better

      haven't tried MACA but my NZ friend takes them and recommends wink

      Nite said Zebedee ZZZZZZZZZZZZZ here's hoping 

    • maria73432
      maria73432 MrsMerm

      Posted

      Not to worry. Glad you were able to get off to sleep..and not having to go to work. That always helps. Hm. I've read some posts on melatonin and how it is helping people. That is my pattern at the moment as well. Sleep really well and deep and then away@3 am...Hope melatonin will help you. One of the posts mentions that sometimes dreams get a bit more vivid with that. I haven't tried it as I am taking so much other stuff for joint pain and inflammation at the moment.. well wish you good sleeps with melatonin and hang in there. They say all things change. This, too can't last forever.. Its quite a journey this transition. I am starting to believe not sure if I'm up for all the challenges. But what other choice do we have?? Somehow we have got to make it through this..

       

    • maria73432
      maria73432

      Posted

      ..that should have been awake@3 am
  • sharcerv52408
    sharcerv52408 MrsMerm

    Posted

    I know how you feel. Leading up to my period this month I was very fatigued and had tummy problems. I still feel the fatigue and it's been three days since I went off. But according to my period calendar I am in ovulation now so that could be why I'm still fatigued. 

    The depression is the worst! You just feel hopeless. The slightest thing makes me want to cry. 

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm sharcerv52408

      Posted

      I just can't believe this has hit me now..........................................

      I feel so alone and useless, I know it all sounds over dramatic but it affects everything, going to work, worries over finances, I have enough to deal with without my hormones being all over the place too BOO HOOcheesygrin

       I feel pooh !!!!

    • maria73432
      maria73432 MrsMerm

      Posted

      U are not alone, you might feel like that, but you are not...Yes I have those days as well where I feel sad and bad for myself and just want to cry. I have really lightened up on my social calendar just to be home in evenings and rest and sleep as much as I can or need to...it does not sound over dramatic to me, I think it sounds hormonal. Been there for many years and hoping I won't be like this for the rest of my days now...hoping that this phase and transition will pass...(sooner than later) do hang in there. Do something really nice for yourself. If you can treat yourself to Reflexology or massage or a nice bath at home with aromatherapy or something....Be good to you!!!!
    • sharcerv52408
      sharcerv52408 MrsMerm

      Posted

      Yeah, things that are usually a problem and that I can usually manage to get through seem insurmountable now. 

      I feel so disconnected from my husband and kids sometimes because I'm so bummed out about how I'm feeling.

      We live away from family so going through all of this is harder. I don't have extended family or friends close by to help out with the kids. I want to move back home to be closer to family but my husband is dead set against it. I do all I can to keep going.

    • MrsMerm
      MrsMerm sharcerv52408

      Posted

      Well Shar smile

                            I live alone and most days don't see anyone only my little cat, this never seemed to bother me before but I think I've gone soft in the head with this peri stuff going on. I find it so hard to get going most days, well really must do exactly that................................

      I feel for you having to cope with kids as well, difficult,

      and you know, your hubby could be right, making major descisions about moving isn't a good idea when your hormonal, another take on it

      have a good day, thinking of you hun xxxwink

    • Tazchurch
      Tazchurch sharcerv52408

      Posted

      We are your friends, not physical ones I know but here none the less

      Big hug

      Tazz xxx

  • maria73432
    maria73432 MrsMerm

    Posted

    I think that is part of this transition. To really start to look after ourselves. Rest when we need to, cry when we need to....hey try to do away with the guilt...That is not helping at this stage in the game..
  • maria73432
    maria73432 MrsMerm

    Posted

    has anybody tried maca? Just recently come across that in a advertisement.
  • Sandy07
    Sandy07 MrsMerm

    Posted

    Know exactly how you feel. I havnt had a period for 16 weeks now and have no idea what's hpening when before I could relate the massive headaches or extreme tiredness or increase in pain to a certain point in my cycle but now....totally random. So exhausting and frustrating. Xxx
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