feeling quite down this evening

Hey fellow night owl 😀 cannot beat retail therapy ! No you did the right thing telling her, but she probably does not know what to say or do. When I tell my brother I am not coping he does not know what to say or do. As you know, before we felt like this we would not have had a clue what it is like. Maybe not shout or scream, but it's ok to cry in your sisters house, it's fine to. Let your feelings out... A little shout maybe 😉 maybe not smash things up tho 😚 take care xx

Hi Tina,

Oh I so feel for you.  I wish I could wave that magic wand and make it all go away for you.

You did the right thing about telling your sister, but unfortunately, ones close to us, when they don't know how to help, will just change the subject as Chik has put.

When I went through my problems my mum and dad just buried their heads in the sand as couldn't believe it was happening to me - probably like your sister.

Take care Tina and just to reassure you - you have people here who know exactly what you are going through and lifting you up in their thoughts.

Big hugs and loves. Mel Xx

Good Morning Tina,

I know this may sound a little crass, but by what is happening you are moving on, little by little.

I agree, we all wish we had a magic wand, but we don't and I guess we'll just have to leave that to Harry Potter and Co.

Chik and Melanie are right and a bit of retail therapy is good! (Okay, I'm a bloke, so what!)

Films are good however, you are right that one was not the best. Bless, your sister is trying to help, but she obviously doesn't know how, perhaps a sit down chat over a nice pot of tea (best drink in the world on these (and many) occassiosns!) and just tell her, if the tears flow then so be it. Otherwise yer just dancing around the subject and she and you'll miss out on the chance to share, understand, learn and love. If you can do it, then just do it. I know it takes a lot of strength.

So far, as far as I can see, you have done nothing wrong at all, it is as it is, sadly there ain't no script. As you mentioned it is a "wee" holiday, you can leave whenever you like and I feel certain things have happened that are already going to make a difference. Could be the smallest thing now, but when you look back you'll understnd.

"I can't scream and shout in someone else's house" is a good opening line for a poem, even a song about what you are going through. Seriously now, you ever thought about putting yer feelings down on paper in this way? You've got something there which will go some way in helping you and possibly many others both us sufferers and Family and Friends!

Anyway, keep in touch you have some great friends here and I hope I do my bit to be one of them.

Best Wishes, David x

Ps does yer sis like music?!!!

 

Hi Tina, We are all here for you darling. I cannot add much more to what  Mel and Chik have written. All I know from my experience is that each day is another day behind you. Tomorrow WILL bring better things. Look at us all here Tina. We have and are surviving THE worse pain any human could suffer. You still have a long journey to make. We touch rock bottom correct? Then what happens to us? We slowly, slowly start to lift. Like a train perhaps? Starting at the last carriage. You make your way slowly, slowly to the next carriage. Then to the next. Then suddenly you are up front in the driver's seat! You have overcome the obstacles. You are then in charge. You see the light at the end of that long, long, tunnel. Thinking of you. Hugs and love xxxx