Feeling Ruined

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Kind of down right now....I feel like I ruined my future with this virus. ...I used to see a husband and kids in my future I'm 27 and scared that won't happen. ...yes I have a supportive mate but what if he gets tired of this disease? I feel like I lowered my worth by having herpes

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  • Posted

    I feel the same I'm 26 and feel like I ruined my future
  • Posted

    I completely understand how you feel! At times, I do get down on myself for getting it, but if anything it raises my standards for a partner. I want someone who will accept and embrace all of my flaws and honestly, herpes is nothing but a skin affliction that pops up every now and again. It's horribly stigmatized but there are so many support groups out there, and most people don't know that they probably have at least a couple of friends with the same thing. It's possible to get your self confidence up, bit first you have to realize that it's not that bad. Youre not going to die, and with a good diet and meds you'll probably atop having severe OBs. Think of eczema (skin condition treated with meds) and the common cold ( treated with meds and highly contagious). At least herpes ia preventable and can't be transmitted just by sneezing. Keep your head up and if you ever need to chat with someone, shoot me an email.
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    Hi. I was 29 when I got diagnosed. I'm now 39. The devastation phase will pass. Realize that the stigma that comes along with herpes is worse than it actually is. 1 in 4 people have it. That's a lot of da** people! If you have a supportive mate discuss it further with him. I've had successful relationships that did not end because of ny condition (those guys were just stupid lol) wink Hold your head up high honey! The RIGHT man will accept every part of you!
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    Thanks for the comments guys...it's good to know that I'm not alone..this is still quite new to me but I'm gonna try not to be so hard on myself
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    You can still have kids. Just have to have artificial insemination and the c section. Focus on your career if it's not too late.

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