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Feeling sad and confused and generally crap.

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redspottywellies
redspottywellies

Ok so lately I've been feeling really down, and I just kind of want to punch stuff all the time, so I do but it doesn't really help, and it makes my arm hurt.

I just feel really off - not exactly sick, but all kind of wrong if that makes sense, like I've got a weight in my stomach. I can act happy around my family (I don't want to worry them, my mum has enough on her plate right now without stressing about her mothering skills as well) but I don't feel happy most of the time.

I'm not sure if I have depression or anxiety or if I'm just going through a bad patch or what, but I guess I just kind of want to know that I'm not being whiny and pathetic, and that this feeling is going to go away eventually. Either that, or I need someone to shout at me and tell me to snap the hell out of it.

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  • christine32071
    christine32071 redspottywellies

    Posted

    It sounds as if u got both depression and anxiety but u need to go to the drs and discuss it.  Believe l had to.  Reason being that because there is no plaster or bandage showing that u r unwell peeps don't understand.  Anyone telling u to snap out of it or what u got to b depressed about r so wrong.  Like u I go around so cheerfully and look so happy just so l don't worry mt family but deep inside my tummy is a sickly knot.  I am on antidepressant and helped me a lot. One problem tho is the one l was on has been discontinued so the dr is trying out another one but unfortunately not working so l am going back to c him.  There is no shame in going to go dr put ur self first.  Good luck smile
  • michael_37726
    michael_37726 redspottywellies

    Posted

    Hi

    It might be just a phase, some times life can have that effect on us but if it continues and has an adverse effect on your life I would say see your GP especially if it gets worse. If you are prescribed antidepressants don't stay on them to long. Maybe just a few weeks to get you out of the worst, the reason I say don't stay on them for to long is because you will become dependent on them and then find it hard to come off them, believe me I know as I am trying to come off mine and it's bloody hard with withdrawal simptoms ect. The doctors never tell you this, they will say they are safe and not addictive but that's rubbish. I know attend narcotics anonymous for help with coming off them and have learned that its just as hard as coming off illegal street drugs also about 40 percent of the people in narcotics anonymous are addicted to antidepressants

  • katie52188
    katie52188 redspottywellies

    Posted

    If you don't mind me asking how old are you? I'm 16 and I'm going through the exact same thing as you, at least I was I've gotten progressively worse and resulted to things in an attemp to numb everything out. Trust me you don't want to progress to anything more that how you're feeling now without speaking to your doctor first. I haven't spoken to anyone about how I'm feeling or what I'm doing unless it's anonymously on this forum. I've been putting of going to the doctors but i know I have to. If I go, then you go?xxx 
    • redspottywellies
      redspottywellies katie52188

      Posted

      I'm 17, and I've not spoken to anyone outside this forum about how I'm feeling either. I've thought about going to the doctors a few times but that would mean telling my mum, and she's not doing too great herself recently because my nan's ill and I don't want to worry her... but you're right, it's important not to let this kind of stuff progress. If you go then I go smile
    • michael_37726
      michael_37726 redspottywellies

      Posted

      Hi

      Hope you don't mind me butting in but please both and Katie please see your doctor. I am a lot older than you and my depression started when I was sixteen, I was to scared to go to the doctors and endid up drinking and taking drugs to blot my feelings out. I became an alcoholic and was that way for 30 years I don't drink now though as I stopped 6 years ago and it's been really hard for me. I'm not saying that the same thing will happen to you, but the point I'm trying to make is that if you don't get help you might end up using other things to blot your feelings out and then end up with even more problems to deal with as I did . You are very young and have your whole life in front if you so if you get help now it will save you a lot of pain later. I wish I could turn the clock back to even I was sixteen because I would be strait down the doctors then maybe I wouldn't of lost 30 odd years of my life. I hope this has been helpfull to you and I wish you good luck 

    • katie52188
      katie52188 redspottywellies

      Posted

      I can't tell you how relieving it is to know someone of a similar age is experiencing the same situation. Don't worry about anyone finding out, doctors are not allowed to tell anyone if you do not want them to anything you say is in confidentiality. My family doesn't know and I think it will remain that way as I know that although they wouldn't admit to it, they would be disappointed in me. I've been plucking up the courage to go for a while and I feel it nesicary I'm sure we'll feel like a massive weight has been lifted from our shoulders by taking the next step in getting better. Let me know how you get on! 😊xx
    • katie52188
      katie52188 michael_37726

      Posted

      Thank you michael, I think your so strong and brave for managing to get yourself out of that situation I know it must of taken a lot of strength so give yourself credit for that. I'm going to make an appointment later this week I've wrote down different things I can say I just want to get myself out of this situation. Xx
    • redspottywellies
      redspottywellies katie52188

      Posted

      I'm sorry you feel like your family would be disappointed in you - none of what you're feeling is your fault, that much I know. I think if my family knew they'd be more disappointed in me for not doing anything about it. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your family, but you never know, yours might be the same. Hope everything goes ok for you smile
    • katie52188
      katie52188 michael_37726

      Posted

      I haven't turned to alcohol although the thought did cross my mind once, I do however have a bag of co codamol and other painkillers I find it helps me to block everything out and sometimes just sends me to sleep, but I know this isn't an appropriate solution and I have been strong enough to flush a majority of my tablets xx
    • michael_37726
      michael_37726 katie52188

      Posted

      Thanks for your reply. You done the best thing by flushing them pills away co codamol are very addictive, so well done for doing that you have saved yourself from a lot of pain, this is the point I was making to you. Most drug addicts and alcoholics have an underlying condition which makes them turn to drugs ect and it's mostly depression so that's why I was concerned about you. You seem very sensable and maybe you knew all this already but I feel a duty to warn people as I have experience with all this and have learned a hell of a lot over the years through what I have been through and the massive amount of reasurch I have done into depression anxiety ect. I don't claim to be a doctor but I'm here if you need to ask anymore advice also there are a lot of other people on here that have very good advice too, so keep coming back on here you will find it very helpfull
    • michael_37726
      michael_37726 redspottywellies

      Posted

      Your very welcome and yes I'm ok now thankyou, I still have my bad days but I have more good days than bad so that's a lot better than having bad days all the time like before
    • katie52188
      katie52188 michael_37726

      Posted

      The few times I have posted already make me feel so much better, it's nice to know that people genuinely care and support you through your journey. Thank you for all of your help and advice michael!xx
    • michael_37726
      michael_37726 katie52188

      Posted

      Your more than welcome. If you need anymore advice please don't hesitate to ask I will always reply xx
  • isnowdropi
    isnowdropi redspottywellies

    Posted

    Hi redspottywellies,

    If it's been going on for a while and you're not really sure why, it sounds like it could be depression/anxiety. As cliche as it sounds, is there anyone you can talk to about this? One of the worst things you can do is not speak out when you feel low and keeping it all to yourself - that does nothing but make the problem even bigger than it is. I know, as I've done that myself. I didn't want to worry my mum about my depression and social anxiety so I kept it to myself for 2 years, god knows how I did that. But I should have told her, otherwise it just festers. 

    I'm not saying you're the same as me, but as this is my experience I'm giving this advice just in case it is the same. Good luck with everything.

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