Feeling so low

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Hey so I have already posted about my ankle, in which I had operated on 3 weeks today, it’s nothing but a mess, I had the first cast removed and seen how bad it was, the pain is real it’s intense but more so the feeling of wanting to die is so over whelming , I can’t see myself back to work within 3 weeks which means I loose my apartment and my job , I hate my cast it hurts I’m just so down and don’t know if this is normal and how do you pick yourself up ? 

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    This ankle injury is a hot mess. It's been 7 weeks for me, but I'm still depressed. When it first happened, the first Week, I was miserable. The best thing to do is read this forum, and check out other people stories.

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    I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a hard time. Continue to take pain meds and keep your leg elevated if you're in a lot of pain. Ask for help. Reach out to anyone you can for help around the house, for company etc. Try not to just lay in one spot. Move from the bed to couch to a recliner. A simple change of scenery can help. If you're being overwhelmed by your feelings of depression, call your doctor. Ask to be referred to someone who can help. Yes, feeling down is normal during this time. Everything is new and different. You can't do things you could do before. It's difficult, but things will get better.

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    I have every feeling like you have described too Mel I have went from

    Being a happy cheerful person to being depressed crying feeling worthless worried about the future it's a nightmare I just wish inm was back to being normal I'm on the same weeks as you I need to get back to work too soon as I have bills to pay and I think this just adds to the worry join the Facebook page I did everyone is lovely and have been such a help with me hope

    Your feeling better soon xxx

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    I totally understand the feeling of depression.  I have cried more times than I can remember.  Some days it feels as if I will never be normal again.  I just have to keep reminding myself this is temporary and by summer will hopefully be walking again. Not easy but try and stay positive.
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    Mam I understand your situation but the most important thing that helped me with my injury was prayer 🙏🏿... many people will tell you so many things to do but they leave out the most important which is prayer... Philippians:4:8  read it when you get a chance. Often times when things happens we look at the negative and the positive.... everything will be ok 

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    hiya,sorry to hear about the ankle and I hope it gets better soon.just wanted to mention something that effected me when I had my ankle fusion done,i suffered for 10 years before having it fused so I know how you feel,worrying about the future,feeling depressed,wanting to cry for no good reason.i lost my marriage,my two lovely dogs and it stopped me doing the job I loved for years but there was one thing that when I got my head around it it made a massive difference and that is fatigue,fatigue can destroy you if you don't recognise it,it can make you depressed ,irritable it can even change you as a person,

    ?I was like most people thinking "nah it cant be that I feel fine" but youll be surprised,by just recognising that I was fatigued it made it easier to cope with,your ankle is under a lot of stress at the moment and the bodies response is to make you tired or fatigued,but because most people have busy lifestyles now and don't want to stop that results in the body not getting the rest it needs and deserves to heal properly,think about it,what your body does on a day to day basis just to keep you functioning properly and now it has this extra trauma to deal with.

    ?when your low on energy with worrying about bills and rent and all the rest of it you just cant switch off,rest more,sleep lots,eat well and see your doctor about help with fatigue,trust me it may not feel like it but id bet my bottom dollar it is.

    ?as soon as I thought about the depression in this way it made perfect sense and I immediately started to pick up.as hard as it seems right now (and trust me ive been there).you need to take care of number one,speak to your family,friends,doctor anyone who can help,its time to rally the troops and call in favours,what I'm getting at is nothing is more important now than your ankle and mental wellbeing and the more people you have to carry some of your burdens the quicker you will heal,trust me one day youll look back on this and laugh,i have and you can too.everyone on this site has been through it in one way or another or are currently,we are all here for you and thinking of you.stick in there and never give up fighting and make yourself proud.grit your teeth and get stuck in and think positive and remember its always healing it wont unheal,one day at a time.

    ?just a thought as well how about talking to your employers if you haven't,maybe even for help in some way,ive known people to do that,where the employer has helped them with money and stopped it from their wages to pay it off at a later time when back at work,its like my brother always says "if you don't ask you don't get",remember prides ok,but it doesn't pay bills,it takes a brave person to ask for help.

    My first port of call would be to speak to your doctor about your thoughts of wanting to die,ive been there and I'm sure others here have thought it too,but as soon as it entered my head I saw a doctor,that should be your first goal then take it from there,

    ?good luck,i will check in every couple of days to see how your doing,its time to take a deep breath and pick yourself up now and above all look after that ankle and your mental wellbeing.this nightmare will end I promise,

    best wishes

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    Missymel I am so sorry you are so low but I do understand why. I don't know your situation about your job etc but is it possible that as you are so low you are not contacting anyone for help and support. With an injury like yours you are looking at a long period till full recovery but you can gradually do more, it doesn't remain so bleak. I am concerned more about your state of mind and would urge you to mention this to your doctor as soon as possible. Depression is part of the territory for most of us. For me it was a battle until I gave in an accepted my severe limitations. I think you need some specialised advice but without knowing where you are or what your situation is (I'm not prying I don't need to know) you are the best person to decide what help you need and try to arrange it. It's not much consolation but every day, even bad days, is bringing you closer to recovery.

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    I feel you. It's hard to see the light. I'm three weeks post op too and go back in three weeks. The knee walker is going to be my savior tho. It's scary. I hate my cast too. Hurts n was too tight n now loose. Keep your head up. If you don't have a knee walker look into one would help at work. I also bought this pain oil natural stuff called komega recover. Helps the knee pain that goes with this ankle stuff.

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    Don't let yourself go there. Think about total healing. You can't worry about those other things...let someone help. Ask for help. Do whatever it takes. You have to be strong and get through this. Seems like the end of the world but its not and you'll be back on your feet before you know it!! Big hugs. I know its hard, but I also know it passes quickly.

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