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Feeling stuck in the past, and it's starting to affect my life....

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EF4468
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Like the title says, I feel like I can't move on from my past. I was bullied a lot back in school, and I wasn't that talkative about it with my parents. I focused on survival rather than sociallize through high school, and now I'm at the point where I am afraid I cannot function in society socially or otherwise. I still feel like I'm in the same mindset when I was bullied, and I'm scared of either lashing out at others because of all this anger and sadness I have, and I question my own motivations behind what I say and do. I want to scream, shout, hit something and cry my eyeballs out, something to relieve what I'm feeling. Has anyone else felt like I have, and if so, how do you move on?

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  • karogers
    karogers EF4468

    Posted

    HI

    I kindly advise its the time NOW to talk! Talk/get help and support from a professional! You obviously have all this long suppressed emotions!

    And be kind to yourself! :-)

    • EF4468
      EF4468 karogers

      Posted

      What kind of psychologist would deal with something like this though?

    • karogers
      karogers EF4468

      Posted

      HI

      Psychologists deal with a very broad range of people and their thoughts!

      Get a referral from your GP or call your Community Mental Health Crisis Line

  • pixie22
    pixie22 EF4468

    Posted

    Have you tried asking your doctor? He/she might be able to refer you to someone who can help. You certainly need to talk to someone about how you are feeling. Keeping it to yourself will only make it worse. And i'd say don't be afraid to let it out - crying is not a sign of weakness, it is a useful release for tension.

    • EF4468
      EF4468 pixie22

      Posted

      I haven't spoken about this to anyone. It was 16 years ago that this happened and I tried to bury it.

    • EF4468
      EF4468 pixie22

      Posted

      I think this might be affecting my health now too. I'm so worried, so afraid of being yelled at for doing something wrong in anything I do (most of that yelling happened back in middle school, thanks to my parents) that i think it's leading to stress, and I think that stress is affecting me: I can barely sleep, my fingernails are red most of the time now and I can barely calm down because I'm worried about my health and worried about dying. I'm scared to go to the doctor and I'm scared of going to a therapist for fear that they can't fix what's wrong. Idk what to do ...

    • kelly55079
      kelly55079 EF4468

      Posted

      If you don't do anything to TRY, I understand about health issues.  If you sit and worry all the time it's a terrible feeling..  I know you don't like the feeling and are in pain.    The doctor can give you something to relax your mind.   It's a simple pill that you take at night so that you are able to sleep.  A therapist will teach your coping mechanisms so that you can function thru life.  Do the right thing and get to a doctor and let them know what is going on.

  • kelly55079
    kelly55079 EF4468

    Posted

    I would talk with a therapist.  If you find that your not comfortable talking with them, find someone else.  Some are better than others but it is very important to talk about what happened and move on with your life.   There are also books at the library that you can read that could help. 
  • matthew60472
    matthew60472 EF4468

    Posted

    I think you need a hypnotherapist or psychotherapist both can help you to get back your normal mental status. Consult with these professions they will defiantly guide you.
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