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Tired_teddy
Tired_teddy

I have my first appointment with rheumatology in two weeks. I was relying on my other half to take me as it's a big hospital, lots of walking and steps to reach the entrance. I thought he could drop me at the door. Unfortunately he's away on a course for the week I'm going. I told him I was thinking of getting a taxi and he's gone mad. Saying it's a waste of money and I should just drive. I feel so bloody useless x 

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  • tiswas24537
    tiswas24537 Tired_teddy

    Posted

    if your not up to driving dont do it, you get a bloody taxi safty first, for yourself and others ,pain makes you lack in concentration ,you cant have that when your driving.

    think of what even minor accident could cause you , and worse still what if you hurt someone else the stress that would cause you .all for tha sake of a taxi .

    do what you feel is right. put yourself first. but i know how frustrating feel useless can feel i feel it every day. its worse than the condition . tianx

     

    • Tired_teddy
      Tired_teddy tiswas24537

      Posted

      Thanks Tina. I feel really anxious about my appt and as I suffer with anxiety I know I'll be a mess on the morning. Just wish he'd be a bit more understanding xxx 
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 Tired_teddy

      Posted

      its taken me to start texting another guy who i met on u tube .for my husband to even notice me. so your not alone.

       tianx

  • Ech1ck
    Ech1ck Tired_teddy

    Posted

    Hi there

    Don't worry about feeling torn or guilty between what is right for yourself and what you feel you should do in worry of depending on others.

    Get into proactive resourceful mode as I did as it really helps to make you feel useful and gives you an end goal/aim. Wherever you live there is local hospital transport as I discovered with some research. Where I am depending on your mobility as to whether I have full assistance in an ambulance and wheelchair to my hospital appts or I pay a very small fee i.e. 50p per mile with a local cab firm that the hospital transport team use if I am more able bodied at the time. As I am now logged in their computer system they are aware that sometimes my fibro is good and I can use my walking sticks and others (as at present as I have a broken ankle too! ha ha don't ask ha ha) they provide full ambulance driver care with a wheelchair door to door when needed. 

    So no more tired teddy more proactive and day at a time not so hard on self teddy :-)

    All the best

    E 

  • Tired_teddy
    Tired_teddy

    Posted

    Thanks for the replies guys. I'm sorry I'm not replying to you individually I'm just so tired. It's awful that we feel the way we do. That our partners don't see until it's too late Tina. Others too bloody mean to help debbar. I'm glad you get help Ech. I just feel like giving up. I'm not even on the road of medication yet but I feel like this pain is too much. The effect on my life is too much. Is this it? 
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 Tired_teddy

      Posted

      get some nano gold supplement down you it does help with the fatigue. and imune system.

      and magneisum oil helps with the pain and fatigue . or for quicker results magneisum plant based supplement , but not if u have ibs or kidney problems ,

      in that case the spray is safer as it dosent go into the stomach .it works thru the blood stream.

      you need to get yourself on an even keel when your fatigued  your pain is worse and when your pain is bad you can't function or think straight.

      if you want to give what i suggest a try. let me know . i will private message u , thru this forum with where to get the above . you can't do it on this page as its classed as advertising.

        you have to try something you cant keep feeling like this

         regards tian x

       

    • Tired_teddy
      Tired_teddy tiswas24537

      Posted

      Thanks Tina I'll wait until after hospital appt and see what they say.  I'll contact you after if that's ok xx 
    • tiswas24537
      tiswas24537 Tired_teddy

      Posted

      these are alternatives , so you wont get any doctor to agree about them .

      but both mag and gold work along side pharm drugs .

      just might mean you could given time reduce the pharm drugs .

      good luck at the hospital tina x

  • anne90395
    anne90395 Tired_teddy

    Posted

    Hello,

    Sorry to hear you plight. I am the same, find it difficult to drive at times. If money is not a problem, go for the taxi. I know some people on a tight budget, and if is you I can see it be more diffficult. Either way, good luck and hope all goes well.

    Take care, Anne x

    • Tired_teddy
      Tired_teddy anne90395

      Posted

      Thanks Anne. Money is tight but I really don't think I can manage the walk from car park to hospital after driving there xx
  • Flowerlady
    Flowerlady Tired_teddy

    Posted

    Hi Tired Teddy

    Take no notice of him. Get a taxi and get youself there safely.

    Good luck with seeing the Rheumy...smile

    • Flowerlady
      Flowerlady Tired_teddy

      Posted

      Hi, no no really in lots of pain and for three weeks now my knees have been very sore an painful. I am constantly reheating a wheat pad to ease the pain. I struggle to go for a walk, but have to keep it up. Regards Anne
    • Tired_teddy
      Tired_teddy Flowerlady

      Posted

      Sorry your having a bad day. Me too. Can hardly move my head due to pain in neck. Hope it eases up for you soon. Take it easy x 
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