Feeling worthless with no hope or success in life

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Hi all I'm new to this... Im a 23 year old male who has some goals in life but just cannot seem to achieve them due to my severe anexity and depression which I've had since I've been 16... All over a stupid girl who left me for Somone else?

I look back at this now as absolutely pathetic but this is what started it all... I'm on Prozac 40mg at the moment and its Deffinately had a good effect although it comes with down days which I'm Deffinately having today ! I have been on Zoloft in the past for about 2 years.

I feel like I'm a total social outcast, I work hard in two jobs and have a beautiful son who I love and see as much as I can, with a ex partner who made my life a mysery.

I can't understand where I've gone wrong or what I can do ? All of my good friends have cars and loads of friends and I don't even want to leave the house. I have major anexity and I feel asif my life's just been on pause for years.

I would love to be in the police and feel completely fine asif I could do it, but one of my phobias is driving a car! I can drive it's just actually driving it's a total nightmare for me, I can't go out for food because I have a phobia I'm going to be sick Infront of everyone, I can't eat a heavy meal then go in a car because I've got a phobia of being sick... And besides that I just want to stay in bed all day and not get up and talk to anyone!

Is anyone else as bad as this or is this somthing that's just out of the ordinary?

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    I can sympathise with you. My anxiety started after a break up of a long term relationship and I sat and let my room get into an absolute mess because i couldn't move to sort it. My parents forced me to hypnotherapy and I found strength to get myself a part time job which eventually became full time after some years. I still have anxiety but surrounding socialising, I can't eat in front of people, my mouth goes dry and I fear I will be sick too. I also can drive but only on roads I know, I can't go on the motor way or anywhere unfamiliar because it worries me too much. I can't tell you the cure because I am here looking for one also but if you knowing you are not alone helps then that's something!

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    Hi Lewis, a thought I have is that it is probable that your girlfriend leaving you was not the cause of the anxiety, but it was a trigger of long time abandonment issues. Is that possible? Think about your younger years. When my parents got divorced, I was five, and even though my dad was definitely at fault, the five year old me felt totally abandoned by him and angry at my mother. That took me years to understandand come to terms with. I didn't even know I felt that way until the issue was exposed. 

    If this is possibly the case, you may want to see a therapist or counselor to clear the earlier issue. I will be very interested to hear back from you.

    I don't usually see a need to go back to causal issue (was a counelor for years) but in this case, it could clear a lot of things for you.

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    You  have a lot going on. Do you see a psychiatrist? This needs outside intervention and guidance.. You have complex panic disorder amd depression going on. Too much to try and make it all just go away by yourself. 
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    I have read  other comments about fear of vomiting in public. You need to forget your awful ex and build your life around your child. Take it from me worrying about past relationships can seriously damage your life and psyche if you let it.
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