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l71207
l71207

I don't post very often but here I am at work at 4 a.m. and already had a drink. I live in California and I'm about to move to Washington which is 14 hours away. My wife's worried that I won't be able to do the drive without having a drink. I'm worried too. I'm up to about 10 units a day. I had gone a month with no alcohol. I now have to taper down in 6 days. Sorry, just trying to vent.

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  • tess33005
    tess33005 l71207

    Posted

     Awww - you don't have to feel guilty. You've been really helpful to me in the past, so to help you, I asked my husband, the expert alcoholic, for advice for you.

    He says if you only have six days to go, then drop a can a day. (This is what he does if we're going on long journeys) and also keep as busy as you can, so that you're not constantly thinking about the next can.

    Don't be sorry for venting! That's what this forum is for. Can't your wife do some of the driving? When Jim and I drive up to Scotland it takes nine hours. I usually do a half hour stint to give him a break for a while, then he does three hours. We stop and eat regularly. He used to be a truck driver so he loves driving on motorways (I think you call them the Interstate) He lost his truck driver licence after being found guilty of drunk driving a car. He was banned from driving for three years as well. That was ages ago and he is now legally driving again. He knows not to drink and drive, and I sure as hell wouldn't get into the passenger seat if he's had a drink.

    You caan do it. I've had loads of slip ups in my diazepam tapering but each time I came back and continued. It's a struggle -but I believe it's worth it. Love Tess

    • l71207
      l71207 tess33005

      Posted

      Thank you so much. I think your husbands advice is the best thing I can try to do. I hate feeling guilty when I was doing so well. Like with your husband I am so lucky that my wife is behind me helping me. Thank you for your reply. It really has helped.
  • ADEfree
    ADEfree l71207

    Posted

    A couple/three years ago I was solidly in the 8/day range and I flat quit for 2-3 days. I don't recall it being a big problem, I just couldn't stay quit. A taper should work just fine. Do you have to drive straight through with only meal breaks? 

     

    • l71207
      l71207 ADEfree

      Posted

      Yes. I'm getting kind of worried because I've done detoxing before and I just don't want my wife's family to know the troubles that I'm going through
  • richard89308
    richard89308 l71207

    Posted

    would it be easier flying?
    • richard89308
      richard89308 l71207

      Posted

      if you think you will be over the limit don't drive hire someone to do it.
    • l71207
      l71207 richard89308

      Posted

      Thanks for the advice. I think I'm going to try to taper and then just not drink on the trip. I hope I can make it. I've had a pint of hard liquor today and want to work it down.
    • tess33005
      tess33005 l71207

      Posted

      You have to believe in yourself. A pint of hard liquor is quite a lot, but I'm rooting for you to taper enough to do the drive yourself. If not, take Richard's advice!
  • Sober_As
    Sober_As l71207

    Posted

    Hello 171207,

    I think that going a month Alcohol-Free was a great achievement.  Perhaps, providing the confidence in yourself, to taper down from 10 Units in 6 days.  Only you can try.  You can only try.

    If it doesn't work out... then you won't be 'well'enough to drive, so decide on a Plan B(such as hired driver).

    All power to your will.

    Alonangel 🎇

    • vickylou
      vickylou Sober_As

      Posted

      Angel that's a good idea, you sound like a very organised person!
  • l71207
    l71207

    Posted

    Thank you to everyone's replies and suggestions. One of the reasons why I'm doing this move is to start a new life with my wife. I hope I'm strong enough. I'm going to have to be.
    • tess33005
      tess33005 l71207

      Posted

      Well, Jim and I wish you and your wife a safe trip and a wonderful new life.

      I think your wife is like me - I'm proud of my husband for getting through some of the things life has thrown at him. Your wife sounds awesome.

      Please let us know how it went!

  • Paper_fairy
    Paper_fairy l71207

    Posted

    Hi 171207. Sorry I've not been there to give advice but I've been detoxing and concentration hasn't been good. Everyone seems to have given you excellent advice which is great. I hope you are managing to taper. Good luck with the move and keep us posted ??

    • l71207
      l71207 Paper_fairy

      Posted

      Thank you for your reply. It started on Saturday at a friend's b day party. My wife and I got drunk and had to have someone drive us home. I then had about 15-16 units sun, mon, tues. Yesterday I brought it down to 11 units. When I first posted this I was already drinking a pint of vodka at work. I've got 4.5 days to taper down and I'm already at 3 units today and it's only 520am. God I need to get through this.

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